I chose to leave my marriage and stupidly agreed to 50:50 care for my children as I though that was best for them despite one of the reasons for the divorce was him doing no parenting. (He has now become a more involved parent)
My issue though is the way he speaks to me, he speaks to me like dirt, like a servant or like the lady in the Devil wears Prada does to Emily her assistant.
this started when he got his girlfriend, prior to that we had co parented fairly amicably. However he then wouldn’t attend parents evening together, having previously done so, wouldn’t sit together at the class show, or would even tell me what night of the show to attend based on which he was going to, and started being difficult over all sorts of similar things, signing the children up to classes on nights we alternate without consulting me etc (the children had already been to, and enjoyed the first sessions by the time I find out and so I would look bad not then taking them on my nights)
What I need is advice and help on how to manage this. Our children are young and I worry we need to be a united front for the teenage years but are anything but that. Also even the thought of seeing him or his girlfriend gives me anxiety. My heart beats faster and I feel stressed. They have form for being bullies.
what should I do. I don’t want family days out, I want civil behaviour and basic manners for the sake of our children who I want to put first in all of this.