Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Parenting

For free parenting resources please check out the Early Years Alliance's Family Corner.

Baby cries so much!

4 replies

SparkleFly · 16/06/2024 17:51

I'm a mum to an 8 week old and a 4 year old. 8 week old is breastfed and just cries all the time. Now I know that babies cry a lot, and it's hard to always determine a reason, but I just feel like ours is unsettled all the time. We're finding the juggle of normal day-to-day life (cooking meals, doing the washing up, keeping on top of the washing) and also giving time to our 4 year old incredibly hard. And that's without even doing any cleaning or anything else that needs doing. We feel so guilty that can't spend more time playing with the 4 year old, and as a result he's stated attention seeking which I can't blame him for.

What makes it worse is that the couple next door have a baby the same age and have said that he doesn't really cry. Husband just overheard him telling someone they can come round now that their son has had a 7 hour nap! Ours has napped for 1 hour max off and on today which means he's either been glued to me most of the day, or has been screaming.

Is this really normal?!!! With my firstborn I had the time to spend ages getting him to sleep, walking around with him, rocking him etc, but with this one I just don't have the time to dedicate to getting him to nap. And if I do, inevitably the 4 year old has an outburst and wakes him up.

Not sure what I'm looking for here, anyone else been through this? Am I doing it completely wrong?! Please be kind 🙏

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
spicysamosahotcupoftea · 16/06/2024 17:54

Oh gosh that sounds so hard. Can you and your OH tag-team between your 2 DC?

Forget cleaning etc for now. You'll have plenty of time to clean later.

If baby is only sleeping an hour a day max it sounds like they are super tired, hence the screaming.

How are they sleeping at night?

GoodVibesHere · 16/06/2024 17:56

You are not doing it wrong, some babies really do cry and fuss more than others. Some want more attention, whilst others are contented. They are little people who grow into adults with different personalities, some of it is there from the very beginning. My two DDs were like chalk and cheese as babies. One was very content, the other far more demanding.

I don't have any solutions, but just wanted to say that it's not you. It is hard though.

Superscientist · 16/06/2024 19:11

My daughters crying and I settledness peaked at 16-20h a day. It utterly broke me. At 17 weeks she was diagnosed with severe silent reflux and multiple food allergies. Within a week she was a different baby. It took until 15 months to identify all of her allergies and it was a long and non-linear journey. She is nearly 4 and still has severe reflux and food allergies with no sign of outgrowing either

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about these subjects:

Twelve8Ts · 16/06/2024 20:57

Have you checked for tongue tie OP? Is baby uncomfortable/windy or just tired?

New posts on this thread. Refresh page