Sorry I recently posted about my ex and the struggles we’ve had, but since things have gotten massively worse. Faults on my part too I’m not innocent, just really distressed and depressed.
me and my ex co parented so well before his new girlfriend. When he met her, he introduced his girlfriend to our son, with little notice and said it would be happening no matter what, and she basically lives there now. He said they all wouldn’t share a bed, they did (son told me) and he also introduced our son to her parents without informing me when we had set clear boundaries
if possible could anyone read my previous post to get full context
fast forward to this week I felt extremely depressed so my sons dad came to mine to sort out problems we had. It massively helped things but it was the day before his girlfriends birthday and she wasn’t happy he was with me. Our sons dad said we could finish our convo on Saturday, and then since then he said no because his girlfriend said I can’t come in the house anymore (even though my stuff is there still)
when my sons dad came to mine he started drinking and was trying to cheat on his girlfriend. He got his private parts out and I said no because he’s got a girlfriend and also it’s inappropriate on some many levels and he’s drunk. He was asking to me to put on underwear etc but again I said no. Since leaving mine he’s spent his girlfriends birthday and with her family so now he feels bad and is listening to her every command to make up for it
my sons dad was supposed to have our son Friday. He didn’t. Then Saturday he said he refuses to talk to me and just wants our son. Obviously I should’ve left it at that but I felt really distressed and I kept asking why we couldn’t talk and I told our sons dad I didn’t feel comfortable our son staying when his girlfriend was there. He said his girlfriend won’t be there but I’m worried she was hiding in the bedroom because he wouldn’t show me, when she has In the past.
i came to drop our son off last night at 8pm because at the end of the day our son wants to see his dad. I wouldn’t unlock the door until I knew our son would be safe and his dad started being really verbally abusive. Part of me then wanted to drive off with our son but I can’t take the name calls I get, being controlling and using our son. I was on my phone and our son was sitting in the front as he climbed out his car seat. And his dad went to grab my phone from my hand and our son fell through the front seat the space between the seat and dashboard. At the end of the day I allowed our son to go but when I got home his dads phone was completely off and I thought his girlfriend was there because he wouldn’t have his phone off or his girlfriend would think he was with me. Me and my friend went down later on to collect my son we I was worried. She went to the door and our sons dad said he’d hand our son over and that his girlfriend wasn’t there but there was certain things he did that he wouldn’t do if his girlfriend was there.
then my friend did start taking control of the situation. I was on the phone to my sons dad out of the house and he was being quite verbally aggressive. My friend said I should get our son as the house smelt strongly of weed but I’ve always known his dad smokes it for his health. My friend went back down to the path got our son. I felt really bad and then 5 minutes later I called my sons dad to come collect our son. But when my son was in the car he smelt so strongly of weed and his bag. He’s only 4 and he was only there for 3 hours.
i obviously really regret things getting so out of hand. I shouldn’t got our son out of bed, I was in the car but I should’ve stopped my friend more. Me and my sons dad communicated soooo well, we had such a good relationship it was only until she came along and he’s throwing his all into the relationship and our son is suffering. His dad is 25 and his girlfriend turned 20 a few days ago. I’m 23.
my sons dad is cutting down his hours to get out of child maintenance. And when he goes down to 16 hours he wants 50/50 but he doesn’t drive and our son will be starting school in September. I’m really worried about the future I’m acting in ways I’m not happy with either, but this is so out of hand now I can’t cope