Any advice please ?

[Hihellogoodbye]

So I live in a terraced house and unfortunately noise travels as wall
insulation is not great.
I just bought a bed wetting alarm for my 7 year old boy as he’s dry during the day but not during the night.
I’ve been waking him up during the night myself so he can go for a wee for the last 2 years and it hasn’t changed anything.
so I bought this bed wetting alarm to help as he doesn’t want to wear nappies anymore which is a good thing

but I’m worried that this may wake up my neighbours. I can’t tell them what we are doing as it may be embarrassing for my son I think … or am I overthinking this?

we are good neighbours- quiet and respectful of each other and really don’t want to disturb them but we need to do this.
what do you think? should I tell them in case they hear?

thank you

Can you muffle the alarm so it’s not very loud?

Surely you can tell them without your son knowing you've told them. Why would he be embarrassed if he doesn't know?

I've never heard of this alarm. How does it work?

We had one and I don't think it was loud enough to wake the neighbours. I wouldn't worry about it. We had one - DS was 6 and we'd tried everything else - and he was dry after 3 nights! Good luck!

Thank you very much I need it .

this alarm is set up to detect moisture . When it detects moisture it then transmits to the receiver and that makes a noise and vibrates in order to wake up the child.

there is no quieter setting because the whole point is to wake the child up so the brain registers that he needs to go to the toilet.

I might mention it to them when I see them next.
I am just a bit weary of disturbing people

Oh I had a version of this alarm when I was 7 (a looong time ago) it worked pretty fast I think, maybe a week or two?

I wouldn’t mention to neighbours, I think it might make them more aware of it!

If it detects moisture surely that's too late? Kid has already wet the bed by then, no?

No it works. It’s to retrain your brain. Gradually your brain associates the feeling of needing a wee with waking up. So yes the bed may still get wet while the alarm is being used but over a short period your brain gets rewired.

Do you know, based on the layout of your own house, which room in your neighbour's house is right next to your son's room? If it's a bathroom or something then maybe they won't hear it.

However, as someone else here said, telling your neighbours in case they hear any noise won't be an issue at all. Your son doesn't have to know they know if he'll be embarrassed, and your neighbours are adults. They'll understand.

Thanks I'll bear this in mind if we ever need one

Unfortunately it’s their child’s bedroom that’s on the other side of the wall.
The alarm rang once only last night and it really made my son aware that he needs to wake up which is great. Usually when get him up at night for a wee he doesn’t wake up as such so this time I actually saw a change .
he did wet the bed but he still went to the toilet and emptied bladder completely.
fingers crossed this works as I hear a lot of good things about it.

thank you for this will see how it goes and if I need to mention it to them i will

The vibration is waaay more powerful than the audible alarm so I don't think it would wake the neighbours

How did you get on? Some alarms have a strong vibration pillow instead. The one we used did. We rented it but you can buy it too. https://pioneermedicaleurope.co.uk/shop/rental-bedwetting-alarm-system Not sure what you went for?