Dd used to be the kindest person you could ever meet. She was the class pet, tried hard and always helping people. I was so proud of her.
She's 14 now and I'm at rock bottom with her. I suspect she has adhd and I'm thinking of going private for assessment because I can't cope anymore and I can't wait the ridiculous amount of time on the waiting list.
She isn't functioning on a daily basis, gets overwhelmed at simple everyday things and kicks off as a result. She fidgets, doesn't listen or concentrate and is now losing it big time when she doesn't get her own way.
Last night we were trying to organise a cinema trip with her friends but she had booked it on a day we were busy and she got frustrated and flung her little sisters toy pram at the tv.
I told her as a consequence we won't be taking her to her activity she goes to. She's really upset and keeps begging and trying to manipulate me into taking her.
She swears at me all the time, abusive and selfish. Getting her to school in the morning is hard work. She can't organise herself and is frantic racing out the door at the last minute. Her room is disgusting, her school bag is crammed with rubbish from lunch and she just scrunches up her school work on top of it all. She has no stationary as she breaks or loses it.
I don't know what to do anymore. I don't know how to parent her.
Please help.