When does it get better? The constant colds and viruses

[coughco]

I’m really bloody struggling. I have an autoimmune disease, on immune suppressants and since my toddler has been at nursery I’ve had constant colds which turn into chest infections. Every illness hits me harder because I don’t have an immune system.

I’ve worked through most of it but I’ve had to take time off a few times throughout the year, again now as I can’t even speak without coughing and screen gives me migraine and I’m exhausted. I know when I go back I’m going to be put on first stage improvement plan whatever the proper term is, because I was told last time I went sick if I did again I would, I didn’t want to go sick and I feel terrible for it. It’s the first time since I’ve been in my job for 8 years I’ve had four periods of sick in a year. I’ve never been this sick in my life. It’s been non stop and relentless.

I can’t afford to go part time, I’m scared I’m going to lose my job and my reputation at work being tarnished because I’m usually so reliable and on it. I’ve worked so hard and now it feels like it’s going to shit.

I also feel terrible because I’m too unwell to play etc with my child at the moment. I feel like I’m letting everyone down

parenting is so hard. Has anyone else had this? Am I going to always catch stuff? It’s been such a hard 12 months :(

I can't give you any advice but just wanted to stand in solidarity. I am in the same boat re. Immunosuppressants. I took my daughter to her first baby class last week and now we both have a virus. I'm lying next to her in bed trying not to cough so I don't wake her. This is just the start. I've been told it gets better after nursery but who knows.

My eldest is 2.5yr and started nursery 1 day a week, which later went to 2 at 9 months. She hasn't been ill a lot since around a year old. Just one nasty illness a few months ago, otherwise minor cough etc. Most her nursery room was off with 2 different things and she didn't catch either.

My youngest is 13 months, started nursery 2 days at 10 months. 3 months in and is still constantly very poorly, lost count of the times she's been looked at by pharmacist and various creams and antibiotics twice. Currently on week 3 of latest virus, barely ate or drank for 4 days, ate again for 3 and now hardly eating and sleeping 17hrs a day again. Poor girl

However, she was only breastfed til 7 months rather than 12 like my eldest, so it's understandable she's been ill more. Anyway, I'm hoping another 3 months (so 6 months total), her immune system will be a lot stronger