Do you leave dc home before school while you leave for work

[whyalwaysme79]

I've just been offered a promotion at work but it will mean leaving work 30 mins early l, meaning leaving dd (aged 13) to leave the house for school on her own. We currently leave at around the same time.

Do you leave for work and leave dc to get ready and leave for school alone? She's 13 so I know she will be fine but I just feel a bit mean leaving her. Are you dc okay with it?

Not right now, but last year I had to do this for a significant period. Dc were 12 and 14 at the time. They were absolutely fine. I did check the security camera when I got to work to make sure they got out OK, but there were never any problems and the kids were fine about it.

I switched jobs recently and now have to leave home 30 minutes before my eldest who is 14. I don't like leaving him on his own to leave in time and lock up but there is no other option. He has never been late to school though but did leave the front door wide open one morning when he left the house. Thankfully I have good neighbours who noticed and checked everything was OK. He has 45 minutes at home on his own afterschool too which he loves as he watches TV in peace for a bit but I frequently get home to find his keys still in the front door lock etc so I do worry about him.

Yes, youngest has been left on their own in the mornings 3 days a week since mid year 6 (age 11).. Is home alone for about 45 mins in the morning and between 30 and 90 mins after-school depending on the day.

It's not ideal and the eldest 2 weren't left like this but circumstances changed and it is what it is, it's been fine.

12yo and yes, most days. But we have ask door that automatically locks, so that’s safe. And they meet a friend so I know they won’t run late. I always check my phone the whole time too, just in case.

I used to be left home alone in the mornings from about age 13-14 as my mum left at 8am, before I had even got up! Never had any problems.

I would trust my son to do this now as he's very reliable about getting up and ready independently, whereas DD needs a lot of cajoling.

Not my kids but when I was growing up we went to a childminder in primary school
but once we got to secondary we got the bus and were alone both before and after school.

Yes, changed jobs when mine was 13 so I now leave before him. It's fine. I mean I had to leave him a lot longer during the pandemic when he was 12, the schools were closed and I worked out of the home throughout. Not ideal but he coped brilliantly. Depends on the child I think.

Yes I do. Mine are year 7 upwards. We also have cctv - so I can see them leave if I was worried. But actually they typically are not late for school so no need to check.
I wouldn't want to leave before they are awake though

I did when my Ds was in year 10 . It was litterally 15 minutes . In the first 6 months he claimed he was sick in that window of 15 minutes . The third time I told him to clean himself up and take himself to school .

He now at 17 leaves before me again.