Hand hold please, sat in toddlers room crying

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Is anyone else's toddler still awake?

Mine is 2, she's very tired and hasn't napped yet still refuses to go to bed.

I just want her to go to sleep so I can eat my dinner. I'm so hungry and my belly is hurting.

Is anyone else out there? No advice please such is she is overtired or leave to cry. I'm too fragile for advice right now, solidarity / company is what I'm after please.

Give up trying
Put her on the sofa and eat
You can eat your dinner with her next to you

You need to eat

Solidarity. I know how hard it is.

I've just nursed my 20 month old to sleep. Will go in and see my 7 year old off too. Worked from 8:30-18:30 and haven't had dinner.

Have you heard of Moshi Monsters on Spotify?

I’ve been there very recently and it’s hard so solidarity with you 🤍

It’s tough going. I really hope she settles soon so you can have some alone time and eat your dinner in peace. I know we all need some time to ourselves after a long day.

Think I will give up soon. I find it so hard to eat enough while running around after kids all day, I lost 4 pounds in one week (last week) and already slim before this started. Not easy to eat enough calories.

Thank you all.

@Hiddenvoice drip feed alert 😅she has a little cold so is being extra fussy. Usually asleep by 7:30/8. It's just a really long day and rubbish sleep at night too.

Yep.. give up for tonight take her downstairs while you eat and then when you feel more able back up to bed.
its hard when they won’t play ball at bedtime. I have been in tears myself at times with it. They know how to play us x

I'm sorry, its so hard. My 3yo can't sleep because she's suffering with chickenpox. (But she's always a terrible sleeper).

Going forward I'd recommend eating at the same time as the kid(s), and also doing the bulk of the washing up/tidying up in the 5-10mins while they have their pudding. Pudding keeps kids quiet! Then there's much less to do after their bedtime, it feels less daunting

Bring her down with you so you can eat. You can't function at your best if you're absolutely starving as well as tired.
Try again when you've had some food. It sounds like things will be more manageable when her cold goes away.

It's just crap because was hoping to have dinner with dh and we don't always get the chance because of his shift work so I was really looking forward to it. Sorry I'm just moaning now!

My boy was like this. He’s 21 now and I miss when he was little. Even the really hard bits. Sending all the love in the world to you and your little one. It’s so tough but you get to be with her and she is yours and still little. One day you’ll be dropping her off to University. How lucky she is to have a Mummy who understands and will sit with her. It does get better I promise.

Solidarity here too. Mine are older now but my daughter was like this at 2, it was soul destroying. I was exhausted, didn't have a nice relaxing evening meal for ages, had permanent indigestion and was a nervous wreck, could hear phantom crying even when she was asleep.
She's 32 now with four daughters of her own. They're gorgeous and I love them to bits. I even have them all occasionally overnight!

Moan away, remember babies are mad. They just make it up as they go along don't trust them 🤣

@Mumoftwo1316 thanks, that's my usual routine but I just wanted to eat with dh for a change (can now see that's gone out the window now though!) Hope your 3 yo gets well soon x

Solidarity OP 👊

😂😂😂😂 this is comment of the day for me ♥️

Holding hands!! My 2 year old is finally sleeping. My 7 month old is really unwell this week n I too feel totally burnt out and exhausted. My husband is self employed and we literally can’t afford for him to take time off so it’s just me on my own most days. I know how it feels when ur sat in that room desperate for them to just go to sleep so u can just eat/wash urself/rest xxx

@SillyLemonZebra oh I did have to smile at that comment. Someone once told me they are like little adults that are drunk, so you can't really take on board anything they say, just nod and smile.

Currently putting my sleep fighter to bed. The other night I said, right it's bedtime. He looked at me and said no actually it's party time. I wanted to cry.

Could you eat your meals at the same time as the children? I thought you were a single mum but then I saw an update where you mention DH! Why isn't he looking after the children in the evening so you can have dinner?? Maybe buy some Ensure Plus drinks and have one for breakfast, eat lunch with the children, and then get your DH to parent the children so you can have dinner.

I empathise.
We have two children (now adults) nearly 9 years apart. My husband had no choice but to work away so I was with then, plus two sixth form foreign students. 5 nights each week alone.

It reached the point where I couldn’t reasonably function so I had to try. It wasn’t pleasant for two nights but thereafter he happily settled within a few minutes. It saved my sanity.
I thought it would cause him trauma forevermore. Needless to say, he remembers none of it.

Why are you being such a martyr?

Bring her back out and eat your dinner..

Ah op, it's so tough it really is. And I totally get why you'd be disappointed about not getting that bit of quality time with your other half, it can feel like you're ships in the night at times. If it feels hard it's not that you're doing anything wrong it's that it IS hard.

When I have these moments I also tend to give up, eat dinner and usually end up sticking something quiet on TV and letting ds gradually fall asleep on my chest on the sofa before we move him upstairs. The saying the days are long but the years are short is so apt for parenting. It won't last forever, you're not alone and you're doing great.

I'm sorry your evening hasn't gone to plan it's so tough when you have something nice in mind & little ones don't play ball. Always always make sure your basic needs (food, toilet) are met as a priority though or the frustration and resentment are hard to control. Hope she feels better and sleeps soon.

My baby wouldn't sleep tonight either, I just brought her down and we watched the debate together. It's one of those days!

Btw we always eat dinner as a family before bedtime. This means if there are issues with bedtime at least everyone is fed!

My nearly 3 year old’s bedtime is getting later and later, whether she naps or not, no matter what time we start the bedtime routine, no matter how much love and connection or exercise and outdoor play she’s had- it’s exhausting! I fall asleep with her most nights so we all eat together, tidy up before we go upstairs and try keep things as happy as possible. Hoping this is just a phase but she’s still going strong now! So sending solidarity, eat with her OP you will be so depleted if you’re not getting enough calories, which makes parenting so much harder.