Tantrum advice

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Hi everyone, after some advice on how best to manage some recurring tantrums. Basically my very mobile and active daughter of 17mo wants me to carry her everywhere and tantrums like nothing I've ever seen if I either say no or put her down. She walks around the village with my parents or when daddy is there too. But for me she won't go a single step. She screams till she's Beetroot red almost being sick, arms and legs thrashing, and it goes on and on and on. I've tried walking away and pretending to be engrossed in something totally fascinating, tried just sitting down next to her and saying I'm here and I love you and various other nice stuff, I've tried explaining, and I've tried totally changing what we're doing (normally this means turning round back to the house but yes I have to pick her up to do this....). Nothing works and I'm out of ideas. We have similar battles when I close the stair gate of an evening or the back door when its time to stay inside. It's so emotionally draining I'm getting really down. Hubby doesn't get it cos she's totally different with him. Thanks in advance.

In the Pram/pushchair at the first sign of a tantrum.
Ignore tantrum or try distraction before she gets going. Oh look a cat etc.
she is too young and unregulated when in the tantrum to comprehend/understand explanations/kindness etc. They have such low self control at that ages.
Another option would be something special - like a backpack and associate that with walking.
17 months is really so little that your expectations need to be really low.
I was a huge fan of reins. Makes them easier to control, they are safer as they can’t run into the road.
Hold your line 🙂 You are Mum and you are in charge.
Ignore/walk away from the tantrum. It can take a while and they will reduce. Always take the pushchair and just pop her into it if the tantrum starts or if she refuses to walk. Just a breezy ok that’s fine. Let’s have a rest in the pushchair