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To continue self defence class or not

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hangingbaskets · 05/06/2024 15:30

Both kids (DS 13 and DD 11) have been doing a martial arts class for around 3 years, once a week for 45 mins. On and off over the years they have been in the same class, but not for the last year. Neither child has ever particularly looked forward to these classes, but never make a huge fuss about attending and do seem to enjoy themselves during the class.

As DD is moving to secondary school in Sep, they have moved her (and others in year 6) up to the next class, where the kids are aged 11-16. She is now in the same class as DS.

Last night was the first class of DDs new group. She came home from school and immediately burst into tears saying how she wants to quit. I explained the reasons myself and DH want her to continue. These being, it's good exercise, a good skill to have etc. DD became hysterical, shouting, crying, saying we couldn't force her. We said to her that she was probably just nervous because she was going into the new class. DS promised that he would be her 'partner' for the class, but nothing would change her mind. She stormed to her room and started sending us screenshots of what a parent can force their child to do!!

We eventually compromised that she would watch the new class and discuss it all later in the week. After the class she said she was more certain than ever that she wanted to quit, as the instructor was stricter and the kids were bigger.

My question is, should we persevere or just let her quit?

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FakeMiddleton · 05/06/2024 15:56

I feel for her - contact sport and everyone in her class is bigger than her/stronger boys

WhenSunnyGetsBlue · 05/06/2024 18:18

I would not force her to go to the class. (I hate the word quit in this context!) If she is not enjoying it why would you? There are so many clubs and activities for kids to get involved in. It's never too late to try something new. Why not compromise with her "I understand you want to stop martial arts classes. These are the reasons why I think you should stick at it....if you do not want to go, let's look at a different activity you can do instead". This is coming from a black belt and former karate instructor btw.

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