Can you recommend a parenting book to help me to bring up a 'good' child?

[LovingBeingAMummy]

I am sure that I have read a recommendation for a book on how to bring up a disciplined child.
My DS1 (5 and a half) is really testing us lately - he sees things at school and copies.
He does listen to us and doesn't copy aggressive behaviour, yes he argues/fights with DS2 but this is normal sibling behaviour.
I worry about the things that I class as 'silly' becoming a normal part of his life, such as getting excited and running around and not stopping until I've had a stern word with him. His silliness then sets DS2 off and we have a disrupted day.
My mum tells me I want a model child but I just want him to calm down.
Are there any books with techniques on how I can achieve this.
For example, this afternoon he was running around the house, I told him 3 to stop but he didn't until DS2 fell and hurt himself. As a result I told DS1 to spend 5 mins on the step to calm down.
Any ideas? Thanks.

'Nurture by Nature' PAul D Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger
'Systemic Parenting' Mark Gaskill
'1-2-3 Magic Effective Discipline for Children 2-12' Thomas W Phelan

I've read all these and taken advise and systems from them. 1-2-3 you can start immediately - my ds (aged 5) doesn't like me counting, but seldom do I now get to a 3!
The systemic parenting is a big read but very interesting. It respects parents and doesn't try to oversimplify parenting! It helps us as parents 'towards greater intimacy, empathy and emotional safety wiithin a parent-child relationship'. Nurture by nature - not totally convinced this is anything great!