behalf of friend
my son is with his mum 5 days a week with me 2 days and nights weekly recently H has been very teary quite emotional with a lot of things even sleep time or random bursts of attitude H disclosed to me yesterday evening that mum and step dad argue daily and step dad comes and goes a lot and last week they got physical with each other resulting in step dad getting hit H was told to take his younger brother B (aged 1) to his room while they continued the argument I want to address this as I cannot stand H being around this and I feel like a crap dad as I don’t want to address something that gets H punished as she will make him not tell me things even worse go back to restricting me from seeing H to hide what’s happening I don’t communicate often with mum due to her abusive narcissistic ways which involve her obsessing over my life so I’ve made changes to only stick to collecting H on certain days which obviously is upsetting for me as I’d love to message everyday to see how he is but she ignores and only messages about my partner and how much she dislikes her even though my partner would do anything to help if that was ever needed my main concern is what H is seeing what he’s exposed to as when he comes to visit he just isn’t himself.
any advice appreciated