I’m pregnant with 2nd child and terrified for their futures..

[Loopywhoop]

AIBU?

I don’t know of my hormones have sent me crazy (due very new baby very soon)

but it’s come more into my knowledge since being pregnant and having more time on my hands to research and read forums that the future is super bleak for children unless they are super resourceful, intelligent and have generational wealtH. Even then with climate change, they could still be fucked.

we are just a ‘normal’ loving family in a very modest income doing our best.

I feel so sad to think I’ve ruined my eldest child’s life and brought a new life into the world only to suffer long term.

I can’t shake this feeling.

does anyone feel more optimistic about the world or life in general?

its been a tough pregnancy as it is and I was just starting to feel better but now I feel like I selfish, irresponsible cow.

Step away from the forums you’ve been on.
Talk to your midwife about your feelings - she may be able to refer you to perinatal MH for some counselling.

The world is full of amazing things. Yes there are problems and issues but there’s also huge progress and development.

You need professional help if you're feeling like that. It really isn't rational.

I can't help @Loopywhoop but I must admit that I also have these thoughts

The world needs children in loving homes to continue growing please see rationally that this child will be just fine as we are from our generations and the generations before

You need to be very careful about what you’re reading. Joy is still to be had out there. And I say that as someone who is very disabled with a disabled child, on a low income. You need to look at the simpler things in life, the everyday joy in things. No one can predict the future, there’s no point worrying about climate change and whatever else - I mean yes make sensible changes etc but don’t dwell on it all. Try and live in the moment.

As a normal modest family going your best, are you happy?

There are lots of things to be happy in life about, even if your circumstances are not ideal. And an average life doesn't mean a bad life. If your kids go to school and grow up to have average jobs, will that be so bad?

There are lots and lots of people in this situation who are happy. There are many things in life that are free to make us happy. A loving family and home life is one, which you can provide while your children are little. They don't need big expensive things, lots of these things didn't exist in the past and there were still happy people.

I think it might be an effect of too much doom scrolling along with all the hormones and together it's making you see a negative side to life that doesn't have to define it. The internet and internet forums are full of complaints and the comments of unhappy people because that gets attention in a way that mundane happiness does not, so don't let opinions on the internet overwhelm you. Lots of the very happy average people are not posting as they don't feel the need. It doesn't mean happiness isn't out there for the average person.

Yes I just worry about the security of my children future. Not materialistic stuff. And everyone seems to be secure with big savings… and this makes me feel I’ve failed as a parent