DS1 just hurt DS2, DH sent him to his room

[NotABanana]

Not bothered, don't care.

Threw a toy down the stairs and sounds like he has wrecked his new Knex wheel. DH says leave him to get on with it but I know the wheel wasn't cheap. Sent hubby up to check but he doesn't know what he has wrecked, if anything.

It is all very well letting them wreck things to teach them a lesson but when someone else has bought it and it was expensive it feels wrong.

Luckily it doesn't sound like he is breaking anything.

Have had a crap day. I had it all planned. Picnic made, off to park with bikes, etc. DS1 went in a mood so DH said not going. I didn't se why we should miss out so we went and DS1 and DD (who had also been naughty) had to stay in the car while DS2 played in the park with Daddy. We had the picnic at home.

Seems like they don't remember what they have missed out on through bad behaviour and just carry on. We try and be consistent but I am fed up with it all. Just once, it would be nice to have a time where no one is hitting/arguing/back chatting etc etc

i don't want to sound unsympathetic but i have to say i'd be chucking stuff around if i'd been made to sit in the car and watch my brother go off and play in the park

sounds to me like relatively small problems have spiralled out of control, happens to us alot, we now have a policy that any punishment is immediate, does not involve the rest of the family and once completed all is forgiven and dcs have a clean sheet so to speak.

agree its not acceptable to allow ds to wantonly wreck stuff though, we use the naughty step so there's nothing around to be broken rather than his bedroom

{{{hugs}}} sorry you've had a tough day, hope tomorows better for you all

no real advice, but I know the way you are feeling... oodles of threads with me feeling the same (namechanged and not)

Sitting in the car was this morning. He had plenty of warnings and clearly stated he didn't want to go out.

He has just hurt is brother now. Totally not related.

not small problem to me that he hurts his siblings and is more than rude and cheeky to us.

sorry notabanana i certainly didn't mean to belittle your issues at all and i hope thats not how it came across

i guess its a case of perspective, to me sibling fighting etc is normal behavior in that its how they learn what the limits are. its not acceptable and is always punished but again its always immediate punishment then forgiveness. we have tried it both ways and have found coming down really hard just escalates things and we end up with whole days ruined, no ones happy and nothings been learnt. thats just my experience, of course only you know what your limits are

but Pheebe, she's just said that the hurting his brother has JUST happened, and he's JUST been punished......

not quite faq but i shall bow out at this point, clearly my posts are not being taken in the way i intended ie nonjudgemental and sharing my own experiences (which is what i though mn was about)

ah well, all the best notabanana, hope you find a way that suits your family