My partner

[helpmepleaseanxiety]

My partner of 2 years who's not my child father has just smacked my 6 year old for kicking the car seats, he's done this before but I said if it happened again I would deal with it he's to not touch my children, and he's done it, telling me it's all my fault and he couldn't care less!
Is my relationship over?

I don't know but it should be.

Yes as it would be even if he was the father.

So he's hit your child twice?
There should never have been an opportunity to be a second time you should have left him after that.

You know that though

If you're asking the question is my relationship over I just feel really at a loss as what to say.

I hope your child is ok and for there sake you see sense and leave this man

No sorry he hasn't hit him twice he's kicked the seats twice

Even if one could agree with smacking as a punishment, kicking a seat is hardly terrible. What will you do?

Not acceptable. I think you ought to seriously consider ending the relationship. It's a pretty minor infraction of your child and your boyfriend is telling you it is your fault and he doesn't care? No way. That is not somebody you want around your children.

What would your son's father say? If this was my ex's girlfriend who had done this I would be very upset about it. I actually am not really sure it is even defensible in law - only a child's "parent or carer" can use the reasonable punishment defence.

My sons father would batter him, and we aren't together fucked him off the wanker

All those newspaper stories about children killed by stepfathers, they start somewhere. And we all say, "why didn't the mum throw him out early doors?" Here you are, early doors.

My sons father would batter him

Good. Let him.

If you stay with this man, you are failing your child. You realise this is how it starts, right?

Don’t be a mother who condones and accepts violence towards her very small child from someone much bigger and stronger. As above, this is how these awful stories start.

Protect your children. Leave.

Do you want your child to believe hitting is okay ? If anyone laid a hand on either of my children I would do time as they say.
Who is to say the next slap won't be for you? Get rid of him protect your child.

@helpmepleaseanxiety

Your relationship with this partner is now over - you do see that? He has no respect for you and has laid his hands on your child even though you've told him "he's to not touch my children" - and he's even said he doesn't care. Has he hit any of your other children?

What is the situation around accommodation OP? You need to be in separate properties and he needs not to be in your lives any more 🌹

Be careful you aren't going from a level 9 abusive wanker to a level 4 abusive wanker. (Doesn't listen to you, won't discuss things reasonably, uses physical violence against children, perhaps also threatened him previously if you had cause to tell him "don't touch my children" - these are all abusive).

This is a very common pattern if you have escaped an unhealthy relationship. It feels better because "at least they aren't like my ex" but the only acceptable level of abuse in a relationship is none.

Paraphrased from the great Reality - here's her full thread:

Right, listen up everybody.

I aren't with him anymore I left him, and we did Live in separate apartments, I wasn't having that at all, and no he doesn't even touch his own daughter he lets her get away with blue murder she can never do no wrong, and get everything she wants!
I would never in my life thing about putting my hands on her!
He's a wanker and he needs to get battered

No he doesn't. He's a twat but no one needs beating up.

@helpmepleaseanxiety

Glad you've sent him on his way, away from you should away from your children. Did he ever gave keys to your home? If so I'd suggest getting your locks changed ASAP. 🌹