Am I being unreasonable?

[Rose1999]

Has anyone had a Baptism with no ‘get together’ afterwards? All I want is for my baby to be baptised. Family are more than welcome. But after, I just want us to go home. She’s still only little and I don’t want her passed around like a parcel.
I’m having a LOT of pressure from various family members to have a party after. They’re even looking at venues etc, despite me saying on several occasions that I don’t want that.

Clearly I’m being unreasonable but I really don’t want it. It’s getting me down, which is making my sleep deprived state even worse 😞

Sounds fine to me OP. If they want a party let them organise and pay for it.
You don't have to go. Don't be pressured into it. Nothing wrong with just the service, if they think that's not good enough they've lost sight of what it's for. I say this as a non-Christian, by the way. But if I was invited I'd be happy to celebrate/mark according to your wishes.

Thank you 🤍

Agree entirely (I’m Christian btw).

Are they planning on organising and paying for it ? As you mention them looking at venues, it doesn’t sound like they want a low-key church hall / family barbecue type of celebration ?

Or are they expecting you to organise and pay for a lavish do, all while caring for a tiny baby with the associated sleep deprivation - who would likely prefer to be quietly napping too, and won’t remember any of it…

I mean, it will likely be nice for them to know growing up that their family was present at the actual meaningful ceremony (and even if not, which in many cases isn’t possible due to distance, finances, it doesn’t change in any way the meaningfulness of the ceremony).

But the after party is realistically purely for the benefit of the adults (unlike when they reach toddler age and do understand and enjoy their birthday celebrations etc).
It’s fine if everyone wants to - and can afford it !! - to each their own, it can be a lovely family reunion type of thing. I don’t think I really recall many where the parents have organised it all (for funding, depending on finances, some provide the funds, and family members organise it).

Maybe just calmly and assertively say you’d rather invest the funds for your LO’s future ! And end of conversation.

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