Separation anxiety ?

[relly1]

Hello everyone , I just want some words of encouragement if anything, I'm 11 days postpartum I've got over the baby blues and doing miles better keeping myself busy etc, I have 3other children and my pregnancy was awful , my waters went at 34 weeks since that I was in and out of hospital my kids cried for me every night vice versa my anxiety was horrendous, I had my son at 36 weeks and stayed in for a week my son was in the nicu which also made my anxiety crippling, my partner has always been supportive but through this whole Pregnancy/Labour he's been my back bone, done everything for the kids to make them comfortable then me too and working while helping us! , because if this I feel super attatched to him:( he goes back to work Tuesday and for the first time I feel vulnerable.. i desperately don't want him to go back because I feel I'm going to seriously miss him I feel sad already I don't know what's wrong with me..

This is absolutely normal. You will get through it. What you need to do is look at getting into some sort of routine, and get DH to make sure the fridge is full before he goes back to work.

I think what you're feeling is perfectly normal. Like Dusty says I'd try to get your DH to make sure the food shop is done and you have plenty of easy to get snacks and meals for you and the DC.

How old are your other DC? Are they on half-term this week?

Some things that helped me were getting out, even if it was a walk around the park and a comfy sling so that I could pop the baby in and keep up with the older DC.

Congratulations on your new LO

@CadyEastman , yes I said we can go for little walks the kids love that, they are 12/7/6 , 12 year old is my step son he doesn't really think we're cool enough so he does his own thing😂 , I've always been a very independent person as I wasn't brought up very good so this is making me feel a-bit weird that I'm relying on someone for the first time in my life we've been together 7 years and I've always done things myself even though he's always tried telling me to relax and let him help I just couldn't until now, I need to let my pride go and actually realize not many men what to help this much and be so hands on and appreciate it

I really feel for you. If you've not had greet DOs I think birth can start to make you think about your own childhood and maybe question what was going on.

Try and be kind to yourself. If you have the funds do your shopping online for a bit and get a cleaner. If you haven't then it's ok to give the DC pizza and let them watch tv if you need to feed the baby.

Have a look at The Organised Mum Method. She gives ticks lists of things to do each day. It might help to get some routine