I'm starting to find this wierd

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I try and stay away from "school gate meeting" with other mums but sometimes its unavoidable. I have to chat with them to not seem unsociable.

Anyway one woman really gets on my nerves, her son is in the same class as my daughter and she constantly goes on about how grown up he is but its always in a sexual sense.

For instance she was explaining one conversation where he apparantly asked her for some new boxer shorts but he's supposed to have said "thing is mum, my boxers stop here.. (and points on his thigh) .. and I'm kinda...down here..." and he then "apparantly" pointed to where his willy is on his leg I just couldn't imagine an 8 year old talking like that.

But then she starts going on about how she's going to provide her boys with condoms and she's betting on the younger one needing them first...he's 6 for gods sake!

And then eldest (8 remember!) is supposed to have a girlfriend but he apparantly said to her "don't worry mum, we're not having sex"

And now the latest one is that a midwife has told her he is going through puberty...and he's not quite 9. Surely not? apparantly this is the cause of all his bad moods, behaviour and temper and he's also apparantly growing hair under his arm pits and naturally in the pubic area and his voice is apparantly dropping...I wouldn't mind but this lad has the highest pitched voice in the entire year.

At first it was just annoying but now I'm starting to find it odd, if this was a bloke going on about his daughter like this he would probably be reported. Why would someone be so obsessed with their son being "sexually mature" like this?? he's not even 9 yet.

Weird.

Definitely very odd. Can you avoid speaking to her?

Odd woman

...what do the other mums think?
Did you end up having to listen to her as they have worked out shes certifiable.

Unfortunately she sounds like the kind of mother who turns her boys into perverts or deeply unhappy in some way.

Are midwives experts in puberty? I thought they were more focussed on the younger end of the spectrum.

She sounds deeply unpleasant.

Agree with finding out what the other women think, if possible.

yuk.

the world is full of freaks and unfortunately for the kids some of them breed.

think your point about the reaction being differant if she was a man is very valid... people seem to conveniently forget that women can be peadophiles and perverts too.

i'd talk to the other moms and if they have concerns too seriously consider reporting her in the hope that SS can have a talk with her about appropriate and inapproprite discussions to be having about your kids genitalia and ensure there's nothing more sinister going on

midwives' remit stops at 28 days so although they know lots about pregnancy and newborns, what a midwife says about puberty is just as valid (or not) as what a dustman might say ...

she sounds wrong...
can't you show your disapproval to her. just STOP that kind of talk.

sounds a bit dodgy to me. I would give the NSPCC helpline a call and have a chat to them about this. It is very inapropriate for children to be talking this way.

I'd report this. Paedophilia is mostly male-perpetrated, but not always, and to talk about your child in that way - as you say, if that were a father? He'd be under serious investigation. It's profoundly disturbing, even if she is just not aware of appropriate behaviour.

Additionally wtf would a midwife tell her that for? Midwives specialise in birth and early days. They're not paediatricians or endochrinologists, as mimsmum says.

And that poor, poor little boy.

Sounds awful

FWIW my ds1 had gone through puberty by age 10,ie voice broken,full pubic and underarm hair,mood swings and shaving 11.

But he didn't talk about sex in that way

She sounds like she needs help of some sort tbh,and so do her ds's.

I'd report her, she's sounds dangerous