i know 4 year olds are can be a little challenging sometimes as they are now growing and want to do to everything there way. am just looking for advise on how other moms deal with this.
our mornings get a little chaotic sometimes bcz i have a 10 months old as well to care for while getting DS ready for preschool esp if i haven't pre-made snack box and laid out clothes at night (which i do on most nights). so yesterday DH offered to help with giving breakfast to son and getting him ready for school as he's currently working from home, i still make the snack box and clothes. This morning i couldn't lay out clothes beforehand , and i have been a bit back on laundry too and so it was a bit difficult finding the right shirt (DS is very fussy with clothes too, always want a short sleeved, doesn't want jumper when it's cold, i have to somehow convince him) so finally found one short sleeved collard shirt that a was little longer, but i was hoping to tuck it in trousers and put a jumper on top, but DS kept being fussy about that too that it's too long i dont want this i want the other shirt (that was in the laundy atm). we had only few minutes left before we had to leave, DH warned son that if this constant fussiness continues he can't go to school today, but son wasn't just trying to listen to me at all and kept fussing , DH got upset and ended up saying DS can't go to preschool anymore bcz of his behaviour.
i was upset too and told DH that he's behaving the same way he's been telling me not to behave as he's not being calm with DS, DH got upset with me too and loudly said that "i tell you this privately not infornt of the kids, i don't interfere when you are dealing with him," and went to work.
DS has been very upset that he has to stay home.
was it very unreasonable to say that to DH in fornt of the kids?
how can i calmly deal with fussiness in the mornings with DS?
is this normal for 4 year olds?