Anxious Pregnancy and SEN

[Sundayrain]

I don't really know what I'm looking for with this thread but I need to get it out. I was extremely anxious during pregnancy with one of my children and they now have SEN. No anxiety with another and they have no SEN. I am overwhelmed with guilt that I caused my eldest's SEN because of my anxiety. That they will have lifelong difficulties and barriers to learning because of me. I feel like I have failed them as a mother, and there is nothing I can do to make up for it. And no matter how much my husband tells me that it's not my fault, I know in my heart that it is. I have no major anxiety now and I am already in therapy but I can't stop feeling this guilt. I know I'm not really asking anything but just wondering if anyone else has felt the same way and managed to get past it.

What SEN is it you believe your anxiety caused?

Your thoughts absolutely cannot cause sen needs in an unborn baby. The majority of the time it's just genetics I say this as a parent of 3 sen children. Please don't blame yourself. Parenting is hard enough, it's absolutely normal to worry about having a child with sen especially already having one you know how hard it is. Don't worry about reaching out to your health care providers for support with it. My first child was diagnosed aged 15, as her needs didn't become problematic to her until this age (I knew from age 4 in my heart though) my younger two are quite severe and were both diagnosed with long lists before 12 month old. Enjoy those beautiful babies you have, you are already an amazing mum, you've got this!!