i have put my dd, 2.5 in a bed, its the second night, need to know what to do if...

[lizandlulu]

she wakes in the night and wants me to stay with her.
the first night was last night, she was asleep when i put her to bed so that wasnt a problem,but she woke at half 3. she had a bottle (which isnt an issue at the mo). usually she would go back to sleep straight away when in her cot, but she wanted me to stay with her. i laid in her bed till she went to sleep then went back to my bed. she slept till about 8.

just dont know if i did the right thing, and want to know what others think i should do if it happens again tonight.

should i just stroke her head,tell her to just stay there and leave or buy velcro pyjamas?

does she want you to stay because she's frightened or do you think its just because its new?

If it happens again I'd probably go in and see her then just explain she's a big girl and its still the middle of the night and time to go back to sleep. I guess it depends on how tired you are and what you have to do tomorrow

Did she settle easily at night? You could just read her a book or whatever your bedtime routine is.

Has she got a bedguard? Maybe she would feel more secure with one, if she hasn't already got one?

How about cuddly toys? My dd didn't have them in her cot, but has loads now she's in her bed. Maybe you could give her a toy to cuddle when she wakes up?

i have a bed guard, but it wont fit. the sides of the bad come higher than the mattress iyswim.

i think its just because it is new.
tonight i put her in bed kissed her and said goodnight and she got straight out, i put her back and just said 'its bedtime now, stay in bed' and that was it, she stayed there and went to sleep.

she had loads of toys in her cot, but none in her bed, usually she just wantes her baby boy, but she didnt want him tonight.

i have to go to work tomorrow, so maybe i will just do whatever it takes to get her to sleep and work on it at the weekend!

I have just put dd 2 and 3months in a bed, and she has started asking for me to lie with her.
I give her a quick cuddle and then leg it out of there!
There is no way I am getting into that habit.

I think it is just a phase caused by the change in bed.

The first night we changed the bed, she screamed blue murder for 10 mins and kept getting up, we kept returning her to her bed with no eye contact at all and it took about 20 turns before she settled.

it has not been as bad as i thought it would be, yet!
i thought it would be like you, lillymolly, but fingers crossed, she wont wake up.

for the last 2 weeks she has been in her cot in our bedroom as hers was being decorated and she didnt wake up once, so i thought she was out of the habit, but she woke last night

i dont want to get in the habit of laying with her as i have never been one to give in to her when it comes to bedtime.

My dd had to go into a bed at 16mths, it was a nightmare, the only thing that worked was constantly putting her back in bed until she got the idea. Lots of reassurance, the freedom can be quite scary I think.

last night was really good. after she went to bed, she didnt wake up till half 6, which is early for her.
she came trundling into our bedroom and we let her into our bed. i hope this doesnt become a habit, but it was ok for today. i hoped she might go back to sleep but dh kept talking to her and tickling her, then left for work
i dont want to put a stair gate on her door as i think this will make her think it is a place to be trapped in, a bad place to go. so hopefully we wont have to do that.

Glad last night went well!