Ruining My Son

[RayvenStorm]

I have a daughter and twin boys. My boys are 10 years old. The older twin often is frustrated and constantly cries, but it’s the youngest I am at a loss for.. the younger twin is in a permanent state of anger. He’s constantly kicking or hitting me, throwing a temper tantrum like he is 2 or 3 years old. I pin him down so he stops hurting me and himself, I keep my voice low and even but nothing breaks through to him. Then an hour or so after his fit he will crawl into my lap and snuggle for hours. I’m at my wits end, we are getting kicked out of the basement apartment I rent because of his screaming. I’m about to loose my job because he’s constantly in trouble at school and I have to pick him up. I don’t know what to do.

He’s unhappy and looking for a way to get rid of pent up anger. I always point the finger at school for stressing kids out and winding them up. Does his behavior change during holidays when there’s no school? Try talking to him and help him out words to his experiences. Be on your son’s side not the school’s side and fight for him. He sounds like he’s surrounded by people who are constantly angry with him

Is he diagnosed ND? I'd say 10 is quite old for behaviour like that if NT. Do the school say anything about his behaviour?

Does he ever just talk to you op? Do you ever get to just sit down and chat? Do his siblings pick up on it and do they talk about how he is in school/ at home/ what his friends are like? Do you have any trigger points and can you change the subject with him easily or is he stuck on the one thing? The other thing is why does the other ds cry a lot? (Just age wise am wondering if they’re both stressed over something!)