Sorry if this is long winded!! I separated from my ex partner over 10 years ago! I now have a DH who is a step father to my Ds (12) and dd (16). He’s an excellent stepfather and provides for us all. I work part time and he is the main provider. My dd has an apprenticeship and financially is self sufficient for all her own needs, clothes socialising and make up etc. Prior to this, this was down to my and my dh for around 12 months as she argued with her dad and didn’t see him for a while. He didn’t provide me money for anything for dd during this time. Prior to that she went 50/50. My ds still sees his dad but it’s getting less. It should be 50/50 but my son is continually not wanting to go and my ex is leaving my son home alone for long periods of time to go and do his own hobbies. He says he asked my son to come, he says no and leaves him there, sometimes without lunch etc. I always pick my ex up on this and it is becoming a losing battle. My ex cannot see that he needs to step up his parenting. My dh is getting increasingly annoyed and wants me to apply for csa, he says he is providing for two children that, yes he loves but doesn’t feel it is a fair split financially. My ex doesn’t make my son lunch for school as my mum takes my son to school for my ex and she provides it, my mum also collects my son from school for my ex and she makes his tea, and my son also eats a breakfast snack in my mums car on the way to school! So what is my ex really providing! He’s not even providing food!! He’s gone to my ex today for the first time in 13 days, as rotas and a holiday have meant it to be this way, and the first thing he said to my son was, I can’t have you tomorrow night as I’m going out! My dh has gone ballistic demanding I seek csa but I don’t want to. I just want my ex to be a decent dad and look after my son properly. He’s full of excuses as to why he leaves him at home. Saying he’s lazy, he doesn’t get ready, he doesn’t want to come out with me but he’s 12, and 12 year old boys would stay at home on their x-box all day if you let them!! He then says I paint him to be a bad guy!! Sorry to go on. I feel annoyed with my ex for being shit and annoyed that my dh has gone so mad as it feels it’s all aimed at me.