Struggling with the mental load

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Hiya,

Apologies I just need a bit of a moan/rant to get things off my chest.

I'm really struggling with my 3 & 2 year old. They go to nursery 3 days a week. One of those days I have a day off so I've got a day to myself and I'm still finding things tough.

It's the constant tantrums with my 2 year old and my 3 year old not listening. They're just being toddlers but I'm so overwhelmed. My partner works long hours so I do all of the nursery runs and most of the bedtimes myself.
I've cried for the past day because the constant needing from me it's getting too much. Thank god it's Thursday tomorrow and I've the day to myself. Sorry it's a bit of a moany one but I just needed to get things off my chest x

Can you have something just for you on Thursdays? A massage, a nice lunch to yourself somewhere a bit posh? A meditation class? Some self care is really useful, 'you can't pour from an empty cup.'

Oh how it's so hard and they are at difficult ages.

Have you tried setting an activity up for them in the house and a timer and saying they have until the timer goes off to do it together or separately if they will argue just to give you five minutes

Controversial i know but get the tv/ipad on because you need a well earned break and let them beg infront of it for half hour

Are they better when they are with friends ? Maybe have their friends over so you can just sit and chat with their parent

Have you tired being honest. "Mummy is very tired and she needs five minutes, please eat your lunch/play this game/look at this book while I have five minutes in the sofa and set the timer?

Can you afford a cleaner to take the everyday stress of housework off you a bit?

Get lavender room spray and lavender under your pillow . Treat yourself to new bedding and be Pajamas so you feel a bit better and get yourself a face mask on one evening or even when your tidying up or doing something in the house

Can you afford classes for them. Put them into a class to keep them occupied

Summer is coming the weather is better you can just let them run wild in the park