...what helped them to sleep?. Our nearly 20 month DD has always been a nightmare sleeper. She has slept through a handful of times in her life. At the moment things are particularly awful with fighting going to bed and multiple wake ups a night taking ages and multiple attempts to resettle. Me and my husband are back to doing shifts, but are both shattered with jobs that require lots of driving. On top of that we have an older DD with SEN.
When she was younger we did a version of PUPD which had some success...but this won't work now! She has a solid bedtime routine, naps well for 1-1.5 hours in the day, eats well and lots of daytime activity and fresh air.
I'm reluctant to do any sleep training that involves long periods of crying, as when we've tried this before she goes nuclear and starts banging her head against the cot bars...it just doesn't feel right! She still has a dummy, sometimes settles with shushing in the cot but most likely a cuddle and some water or very watered down milk (in our attempts to nightwean as she'sa milk addict!). She's so strong willed and we're so sleep deprived I just don't know where to turn.
I have tried bringing her into bed when we've been desperate but this doesn't seem to settle her or reduce the wakings and she seems to want to lie 'on' me rather than next to me....so my sleep is even worse 🙃
Hope someone can help! TIA