Ok ,I left my sons dad may 24 2019 we moved in with my parents,my son was seeing his dad every weekend because at the time he wasn't in full time education but once he was contact was alternate weekends.My dad does the handovers and dropoffs, from 2019 to 2021 my son dad was being really difficult with my dad in front of my son,because I left him ,my parents are my support and he really hates us he was shouting, he was being aggressive, he was badmouthing all of us,swearing,he also blocked my dads number. For 18 months it seemed that he had calmed down .I started divorce procedures, he was ok with it,just got a bit further with it .BUT April 29th social services became involved because my ex made a false allegation against my mum,socisl worker talked to me,my son and my parents. My son is 8,has autism and social were involved ,he had gone into Foster care for a few months so when the social worker visited at first he was showing his minecraft models but then he became very distressed, he said he doesn't like the social services and wanted her to leave, he went to his dads a few days later,his dad told him that his school had made the referral so my son went to school in a bad mood,them coming back is affecting his lreaning,needs constant reassurance he isnt being taken away and has been sleeping in my room.The social services and other professionals decided a medical wasn't needed,and started a assessment,to see what support we need as a family iv been asked a lot of questions, my dad had given my ex mother in law number to social,they need my ex to answer questions about our son too,he has said twice email contact only,thats all he said, he is now refusing to answer any emails. My parents and myself are working with social services.My parents are having a talk with the social about their concerns tomorrow and they are suggesting my son doesn't go to his dad's this weekend,we dont want contact to stop but we do want it to change.There is a small possible my ex might take us to court,he has done before, he got legal aid I didn't even though things could have changed since then.My parents dont want to be taking him to court (dont ask) ,I don't think he will but just in case he does .
I am on universal credit, I work part time and I know I would have to provide bank statements.I had spoken to a solicitor about whether I ought to get a money order(I decided not to),it was suggested I talk to a doctor about the abuse I suffered but I don't really want to have to do that ,would the low income, uc and bank statements be enough?
Thing is my son is struggling in light of social coming back,social know ex lied about a bruise ,they are sending emails and letters but can't actually force my ex to respond, feels like they saying they are saying he can do want he wants without consequences.