I separated from my ex last year and we share custody of out children, an ongoing issue we have had is that when the kids are with my ex, they don't get bathed regularly, nor do they brush their teeth. My oldest is nearly a teen but is autistic, not severely, he is capable to cleaning himself and brushing his own teeth but he needs prompting to do so, now it's come to light that he needs work done on several of his adult teeth due to not brushing them properly and has been given special toothpaste from the dentist in order to try and reduce any further damage until the work can be carried out for him.
We have had social services involved due to issues that have been caused by my ex is threatening suicide etc infront of the children and the fact that they were coming to me filthy, in ripped dirty clothes they've worn for days at a time without taking them off, even for bed. And whilst the social worker was involved, my ex done everything that should be done like putting clean clothes on them, making sure they're clean, teeth brushed etc, but now we no longer have a social worker, my ex has gone back to their old ways. We don't have a court order for the custody it's an agreement we reached through mediation and I'm at the end of my tether over it, my oldest will end up losing their teeth if my ex doesn't start making sure they get brushed every day. Any advice would be really appreciated