Will he remember this?

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I really should let this go but its worrying and upsetting me.

A couple of weeks ago I was pulled up by a teacher to tell me my son had been involved in a playground incident.

When I was eventually told the full facts it turned out a girl in DS's class had pulled down his trousers and pants and shouted that he had a really tiny willy, all the other kids then came across and laughed at him over it. They're 7 so he has no reason to let this bother him yet, he was just confused and a bit embarrassed but some of the more 'streetwise' boys kept going on about it for days afterwards.

He's a little overweight and one of the boys in the class apparantly asked the teacher in front of the entire class "why do fatter people have tiny willies?". Ok so this kid is "known" for his innapropriate comments but even so.

Anyway its died down now but I'm worried that DS will remember this later on and it will damage his self esteem.

Am I making a mountain out of a molehill?

(and yes I'm a name changer but a regular).

When you say say you were "pulled up" by the teacher do you mean your son was in trouble for this appalling treatment? I really hope he doesn't remember Children can be so horrible

arent kids cruel?
i should think he will remember it but not with anything like the sadness you feel most boys at 7 tend to have smaller winkys as a mum of 2 older boys 1 who was quite poorly last week and i had to get him out of the bath i was shocked to see just how much they can change ...yip my ds2 is pubescent lol....time will pass and the memory will fade,i think this has hurt you a whole lot more than you are letting on .

Well she took me aside and explained that there had been an incident in which DS was bullied and laughed at. With the 'sexual' notion been there they wanted to let me know straight away what had happened and how they were dealing with it. DS was not in trouble but I can't help thinking about how embarrasing it must have been, especially when the kid mentioned it during class.

I'm just glad he wasn't a few years older.

It's not the first incident of bullying, they're always going on about his weight saying he can't run properly etc.

The thing is, I went on holiday with my friend and her son last summer and the kids were getting changed and without being crude, I couldn't help noticing how different her DS was in that area to my DS. They're both the same age but her DS seemed to look much more 'grown up' IYSWIM?

I know it probably does have something to do with him being a bit overweight but I really am starting to worry that this is going to turn into an 'issue' for him.

You could take it further with the school if you wanted to. At the school I work at, a boy was excluded for 2 days for doing this to a girl in the middle of the playground earlier this year. She was absolutely mortified and it could (at a push) be considered sexual assault. The children in question were 11, but similar case I think. Personally, I do think this is bullying, and it could be the start of something which could go on and on. You need to keep a close eye on your ds even if you don't take it up with the school. I wouldn't worry about penis size at such a young age, they do very tremendously, but by maturity are pretty much all caught up. TBH I think he is more likely to get worried about it if you are, and GP visit might make him think there is something to worry about? HTH Cx

I think that, sadly, he probably will remember it, yes.

He will remember it.

I remember an incident when I was 7 when we were changing for PE (boys and girls used to change together in the classroom) and a boy accidently pulled down his underpants and trousers at the same time. All the other children in the classroom giggled and pointed while he froze, and I still feel for his embarrassment decades later so I'm sure HE remembers it. We weren't even particulary nasty to him.

But this doesn't necessarily mean it will damage his self-esteem forever.

poor ds. what a bunch of wee gits

as a tubby child - i got teased quite a bit and i still remember some of those times.
i didnt really talk to my mum about it as i was too embarrassed.

maybe talk to him but dont make a huge deal of it. get both of you doing stuff that makes him feel good about himself.

I guess the only really relevant things you can do to help is to help him reduce his weight (not a diet - just cut back on useless calories) so that it doesn't make him a target, and generally do what you can to build up his self esteem.