Has anybody gone through the mediation process before?
I have a 5 month old, relationship with coparent has turned sour. He originally stayed with us every other weekend but I felt like he had a massive impact on my every day moods so asked him if he’d start having her by himself on weekends. He’s a hands on dad, helped with night feeds since she was born & has 2 other children from a previous relationship. We split mid pregnancy and he made the pregnancy really stressful but we become close towards the end and up until recently everything was some what okay. He lives in shared accommodation so I was originally anxious about sending her but he reassured that the place was more than safe.
He was due to have her 2 weekends ago, but said it was too short notice and he didn’t have correct set up for her. So we agreed he would have her for the day, following day I dropped off items and he wasn’t in, several guys answered the day and property stank of cigarettes and cannabis. Obviously fuming that he thought this would be a ‘safe’ environment for our daughter to be staying I kicked up a fuss and said I wouldn’t be sending her for overnights in that accommodation so he would need to sort something asap. Hes since stopped payments (have now applied for CMS) and sent me a crappy text and I haven’t heard from him since he said he’s applying for mediation. I had previously asked him if we could set up a parenting plan and he refused. I have my first MIAM appointment next Wednesday, this weekend would be his weekend to have her - I have sent a text asking if he plans on seeing her at all and if he managed to sort suitable accom for overnight stays as he had mentioned he would be moving. He’s ignored my message. He originally said he was going through mediation and courts for full weekends which I’m so confused about as he hasn’t been stopped from seeing her, just needs to find suitable accom for her to stay and then he’s more than welcome to have her overnight for the weekend. He has been emotionally abusive since I was pregnant and would rather use silence instead of communication even when it comes to our daughter and me trying to be amicable. This guy has literally exhausted me in every way possible, I know we can’t force them to do their role as a parent but what’s the point in him applying for mediation when he’s the one that’s made this difficult?
What kind of things do they ask you in mediation? My heads so scrambled I feel like I should bullet point some things down