Two year old only goes in cot if DH puts her to bed

[Neonmargs]

The last few weeks suddenly DD will not go in her cot if I put her to bed but if DH does bedtime she goes in the cot.

We don’t do anything different, we both read her stories say goodnight etc. If I put her to bed she screams and screams as she wants to go on our bed and for me to lie with her and cuddle her to sleep. She won’t stop screaming so I give in as she gets distressed. She hasn’t done this before so I’m confused and also why only like this when I do bedtime?

Nothing had changed so I don’t understand why she won’t go in her cot but will happily go to bed in her cot if DH does it. DH works shifts so I’m the one usually who puts her to bed but I don’t know why this is happening. Any thoughts or suggestions please? Thank you

Bump, anyone?

Could it be that she really enjoys the time lying on your bed with you, has now built up an association of mummy=cuddles, and wants to make sure that's what happens?

My son always did this too! For us it stemmed from breast feeding sleep associations. My husband did every single bedtime for a few weeks and he soon forgot about it.

Yes, it happened to us (2 years 2 months).
I am pregnant, so I found it easier if I took her to my bed first - it was a mistake, she's got used to it.
We decided to take off the side of the cot - although she never tried to climb out - and now she's happy to go to sleep as I can read next to her while she's lying in her bed- I guess the side of the cot made her feel trapped.

Is she a young 2? I think it’s really common for them to get funny at bedtime around the time they turn 2, IDK why but it’s definitely a thing. And then you’ve given in before so she thinks you will again so it becomes a thing that’s expected as part of the night time routine. For whatever reason, she either doesn’t want the cuddles from dad or feels like she’s not going to get anywhere trying. Different routines with different parents are pretty normal eg if mum still breastfeeds at bedtime but Dad gives a cup of milk, or nothing at all.

I reckon maybe time for a big girl bed and you can lie with her there or sit in a chair beside then ninja out the room once she’s asleep.

Yeah she’s a young 2, maybe I’ll try and remove the side of her cot to turn into a toddler bed and see how that goes..