dd3 is now 3years old. and isnt bothered in the slightest if she wets her pants

[misdee]

what do i do?

i praise her for dry knickers, but what do i do about the 'oh i weed myself' bit said with a big great.

she really doesnt seem interested in giving up the nappies properly. dd1 was the same really, and didnt crack it until she was over 3.5years old. but really want dd3 dry as soon as possible so i get a little break from the whole nappy thing before the next one arrives.

well dd3 has been dry at night for ages and ages but regularly has minimal or bigger accidents and doesn't seem to give a hoot - only 1 at school so far though. I have no suggestions apart from trying a reward chart/jar perhaps. I think dd3 just can't be bothered to stop what she is doing to go until it's a bit too late.

she is dry most mornings as well. and does all her poo's on the loo. just cant crack the weeing part of it.

does it tend to be mostly a small accident or mostly huge accidents? Could it be an attention thing? I think dd did improve when we started say wet stuff in the kitched go and get dry/clean pants on?

dd is 4.5 btw and it's always been like this, she has been dry at night for at least a year.

big ones.

i tell her to go to the loo. i take her, she refuses to go. 10mins later, wet knickers.

wish their was a hmmm get her to clear them up herself (not joyful I know) and stop suggesting/reminding her????

if i dont remind her, then she wets even quicker.

i would've got her to clear it up today but she did them all out in the garden (thank goodness)

could you try and call her bluff? Tell her that you'd like her to go back to nappies as she's having so many accidents as it will give you some practice of changing nappies again ready for the new arrival.
Might that work?

has she started pre-school, does it happen there? My dds is def influenced by peer pressure it would seem.

she hasnt started pre-school, she starts nursery in september.

this is the 3rd attempt at toilet trainign, but this week she is insisting she must be 'potty' trained and not 'toilet' trained, so may go back to the potty.

she had cracked it last summer and was doing really well ,then dh got really ill and finally had his transplant, and it all went a bit to pot really.

we went back to pull ups as well, as she was just weeing everywhere and didnt care. she weed on the sofa, the bed, the dining table chairs.

but really want to get this cracked asap.

My DD is 5 and she started wetting again last yr, she was out of pull ups for over a yr before this set back. I took her to a clinic cos school were pressuring me and they are getting her bladder checked out now, infact her appt is next week. They did tell me though that its not uncommon for girls to do this up to aged 7 and there could well be nothing the matter, just bad habit. They said the cold weather does not help, to avoid blackcurrant or fizzy drinks and keep taking her all the time whether she says she needs to go or not.I have spent half an hour standing in the bathroom waiting for my DD to do something!! This is the only thing that helps me at the moment. I have a reward chart and this worked...for about a month til the novelty wore off so i am convinced that she just puts it to the back of her mind like its not important. Dont worry though when i posted about this loads of mums had the same problem

you see misdee I did wonder if it is all to do with what you've been through and perhaps wanting to stay at the toddler stage where things all felt safer before peter got critically ill?

she keeps saying when she is a baby again she can do this that etc etc. she is still quite unsettled at tims, yet seems so grown up in other ways.

ahh i had all that with DD when DS was born last yr, maybe it is emotional, she just wants to stay your little baby!

i am worried about telling her there is a new baby on its way, i think we will have the full blown regression and toddler tantrums. she has been my little girl for so long and helped keep me sane and keep dh focused as well.

but she wants to go to nursery and play with the big kids, and i'm not sure hwo that wil lwork if she isnt toilet trained by then. but sept is still almost 6months away.

Honestly I'd just put her back in nappies and let her move on when she is ready. You've all been through a huge amount of emotional turmoil let her give up her toddler hood when ready.

Perhaps your dd (ds?)4 will be like my dd4 she is convinced she is at least 4 or 5 years old at 2.5, and why on earth can she not be treated the same as her big sisters !

nursery will be fine about it, its not like reception and they will help her learn too. I am sure she will be ok when you tell her about the baby. My DD is a real little helper, we just had the wetting cos DS was prem so i was practically in the hospital for 8 weeks day and night with him and i suppose i neglected her when she was just starting school. As long as you involve her and excite her about the baby she will be fine i am sure. Dont stress too much about the wetting, I know its so frustrating but she will get there. My DD has been dry for 2 weeks but she wet tonight, too busy playing. I think sometimes i pressure her too much to be dry and when she wants she can do it. Good luck!