I need to vent...
Husband is absolutely useless and if I can't vent now I'm going to lose it.
He can't and won't do DIY, not great with money and it's me forever having to buy things for our toddler, the soon to be new baby or the house. If I mention splitting costs it becomes a bit of a salty conversation. We both work but I'm about to go on mat leave again... I carry the full mental load and do all house and childcare arranging etc.
He doesn't help with our 15 month old daughter at mealtimes, bedtime or at night. He naps a lot when he's at home in the evenings and at weekends and is able to chill out which infuriates me... He also gets mad when he's woken up from naps and says it puts him in a bad mood.
When I ask for help it's like he's doing me a bloody favour and not being an equal damn parent. I'm also pregnant with our second and due in just over a month.... So well aware I'm very hormonal, sleep deprived and ratty atm.
It got to the point where to get a break I have cancelled now twice last minute when we were due to go and see his family for the day (which isn't that often, maybe once a month ish). And honestly I see this happening again and again.
It forces him to go with our daughter on his own otherwise they'd just not see her and he'd spend absolutely no time with her.
He absolutely HATES it when I do this as it means he has to be the default parent. If I'm there it just falls on me. And in truth I get such a sense of satisfaction from this.... Don't get me wrong, I love spending time with my little girl and would do anything for her. I also make sure her little bag is packed for if he's going to his parents so she has everything she needs..
This little act of petty defiance is honestly keeping me sane...and I feel insane for saying it... But life is absolutely non stop day and night for me without those couple of hours once a month. And I feel he needs to spend time with her, see his family and for me to get that break...
Are any of you in the same boat and what did you do to fix it?