Thought I would post this here aswell as in step parenting as I am not sure if this is just to do with her age or our situation.
Bit of background - Dsd is 10 and stays with us for Fri - Mon every other weekend and about half the holidays. Her mum and dad split when she was about 2, mum had a new partner before dp met me when she was around 3 1/2. Things have been mostly good between us all, for the sake of dsd, although there has been a bit of tension recently (don't want to go into too many details in case anyone recognises this as our relationship treads a delicate path at the best of times!) I think dsd's mum is maybe a little jealous of the relationship dp and I have and the recent arrival of our dd - however I could be completely wrong about this.
Anyway, dp and I are getting increasingly worried about dsd when she is here - she is just constantly bored. We don't know any children around here and we don't know the parents of any of her school friends to be able to ask them over - I'm guessing most parents of 10 year olds would not be happy to send their children to a strangers house! We have tried to get her to join clubs in the area to try and meet some children locally - including swimming, stage coach, Brownies/guides, the youth club and she says she doesn't want to go.
Can anyone suggest anything, we obviously want to keep having her here but it is awful to see her looking miserable, we do try to keep her entertained with activities and days out but it is difficult to come up with something new every weekend and half of the things we suggest are met with an indifferent shrug anyway. Is this just what 10 year old girls are like?! I do remember my brother and I whining about how bored we were as children but we can never be sure if this is just how she is just now or if we are doing something wrong and she is unhappy here.
Any advice would be gratefully received, thanks!