I have a DS who is 2 yrs 10 months, who is always moments away from crying / needing something /having a huge tantrum, and I'm struggling to deal with it. We are fairly sure he has an ASD (have autism and ADHD on both sides), but I know a lot is / could just be toddler behaviour. I have a history of anxiety and depression (definitely had PND), but have always struggled with stress. I've been on sertraline for over a year now and whilst it has really, really helped me, I can still be quite reactive and lack patience. I've been to therapy a lot before, and will consider going back.
I definitely struggle with always being needed for something, that's my biggest stressor. My son struggles to play alone, and about half of the time he'll cry if i go to the toilet - even though I tell him where im going. He moans a lot, sometimes seemingly about nothing, and then doesn't listen to me for the rest of the time.
I just wanted to ask if anyone has any tips or tricks they use when they are "in the moment"? When you have reached your stress limit and dealing with a very defiant toddler? I end most of my days feeling emotionally exhausted after work and going through the pre-bedtime battle! Or even if you have any Instagram pages/self help books recommendations?