When will it get less exhausting?

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Kids are 3 and 1. Life is relentless and I’m tired.

Don’t answer never because it has to get less full on than this. I’m guessing maybe when the youngest is 4?

I had 3 under 3 and it's starting to get noticeably easier now as my youngest is approaching 4. Hang in there!

DH & I were sitting on the sofa having a hot tea earlier while our 5&3yr olds played in the other room & saying how much easier it has got for us at the moment… so hopefully less than a couple of years?

I also have 2 under 4 and my god it's so exhausting. Although I have got into a routine with them but some days are worse than others and my social life isn't what it was even after the first one tbh. Working part time is like a break from my routine.. I am also hoping it gets easier. Currently my 3 year old doesn't stop talking and asking "why" all day. My 1 year is on the go all day. So it is physically and mentally exhausting atm

I have a one year old too OP and it’s awful!

mine are 4 and 1 and I’m exhausted 😅 permanently 😅

my sisters are 3 and 6 and she seems able to leave them to it a bit more.

have to have eyes on back of head with 1 year old don’t you. They’re permanently in peril

The pressure came off me when my youngest hit 4

However the noise level has made me a bit deaf. I need to watch the tv with subtitles on

Mine are 5 and 2 and it's still tough but a million times easier than this time a year ago. It's amazing.

Biggest hard thing at the moment is toddler dropped her nap so it's a long day!

Hang in there op xx

@IMRAA i get WHHYYYY too, drives me mad.

There is 17 months between my two. It definitely got physically easier once the youngest turned 4. Hang on in there!

"But Why? How? Where? When?"
That's all I seem to be answering all day.
I've been getting alot of "but don't worry, I'm a big girl I won't fall" 🥱🥱

Yup. I think first two years are physically exhausting and after that it's mentally exhausting answering their questions 🥱🥱

Soon! My kids were super easy at 4 & 6. 4 seems to be a key age I think. The we had another baby 😄 so I really noticed how easy they had been when it was just the 2 of them! Noticeably easier once out of the toddler years.

I would say it gets easier when the youngest is around 3/4. I know that seems like a long way off.

Mine are 4 & 6 now and the difference is massive. We now sit at soft play eating and drinking whilst they run around on their own. We finally have time to sunbathe in the garden again while they pop in and out of the house to see us.

It is still hard at times, but nowhere near as hard as when they were younger.

It will get there!!

When the 3 year old hits 4. It's sooo much better.

You won't believe it.

Mine are almost 5 and 6 now and the challenges are different but it's definitely less exhausting. They sleep all night, they take themselves off to play when at home and during the week, they're at school.
I feel I mostly have my sanity back.

Mine are 4 and almost 1. It feels so easy looking after 4 year old now. I’d say it got easier around age 3 so hopefully when the youngest is 3 it will be easier.

It doesn't really with very young children but you do get better at dealing with it, once they are school age they are more independent so you get a bit more down time.
I've got 6 ranging from 2-18, got through 4 under 5. I was so tired when the twins were young that I dozed off in the dentist chair having a root canal, our toddler now feels pretty easy in comparison.

Mine are 4.5 and 2.5 and it's still exhausting. But yesterday we took them to a large adventure area thing and they both played independently and my DH said "all we are missing now is a hot flask of tea!". And we so could've had a cuppy whilst they played so we know we are in a phase of it getting easier!

Youngest turning 3 has been a hugely positive change in our house!

Youngest starting school was good.

Youngest getting to about 8 was even better!

Give me teens over toddlers any day of the week!

Disclaimer - obviously I loved them (especially when they were asleep!!)

Three was a game changer for both of mine; they suddenly started being capable of playing with a friend in a different room for a period of time. School starting was another game changer. My 6yo is still kind of hard work, but mostly because of his personality; my 9yo is a complete doddle, and has a healthy individual social life where he's quite often out of the house for hours at a time with other kids at the weekend.

These days soft plays and playgrounds are also super restful; the kids simply disappear and come back about once an hour demanding snacks and drinks, and the rest of the time I simply read my book. It's ace.

Hang in there.

3 and 1 was definitely thr hardest stage for me! My life got easier when the youngest when to nursery school. So about 3.5 and 5.5. They're 9 and 11 now and it is so much easier. Although they don't go to bed at 7pm anymore 😫