Worried about 14 month development, feeling very anxious

[Lynnestevens]

I have a 14 month old DD and I am worried about her development. Ive already spoken to her HV who had a bit of a wait and see attitude and is going to review her in 2 months.
My main concerns are;

• she has no clear words except maybe "bye" and "mum" but mum is used more for when she needs something not necessarily for me
• she isn't walking, she had furniture cruise and walk holding hands for a short distance
• she will bend down and bang her head on the floor when annoyed and also do a short sharp scream
• she is very attached to me, will cling onto me most times and won't let anyone hold her, she was breastfed until very recently

-her sleep is horrendous, she is up frequently throughout the night, will sometimes take 2 hours to settle

She is our second child and our first was so different, he was running, saying a lot of words and sleeping through the night at this stage

Is all this normal, should I be more worried? Just feels like shes not developing like a typical child and im worried

My DS was like this he didn't walk till late and barely spoke, once he turned two and started pre-school he flourished within weeks he was speaking much more and alot less clingy, he doesn't bang his head anymore but can have what feels like the worlds worst tantrums.

I wouldn't worry all we was advised is to talk to him as much as possible about any mundane thing and try to offer choices as much as you can - for an example do you want the red ball or the blue ball ect.

I wouldn’t be worried by any of those things. I have 3 dc (youngest is 18m).

Ds1 walked at 14 months and only said 3 words at 18 months (I remember clearly because I took him to the GP). Very attached to me and would be distraught if anyone dared talk to him in the pram let alone tried to hold him.

Ds2 walked at 13 months and has been talking non stop since 16 months. Will not be held by anyone that is not familiar.

With the talking, I would continue to talk a lot, narrating what you are doing.

Sounds pretty common. I wouldn't worry.

This all sounds well within the normal range for her age. Try not to compare to your eldest, they're all different.

Thanks everyone definitely going to try to talk more to her, think the lack of sleep doesn't help as im so tired most days its hard!

My first didn’t walk till 15 months and probably had a similar number of words at that age too. Sounds very normal!

My DD was 15 months when she walked without holding hands too. She's just not very confident with physical tasks at first I've found.

Have you read the Ferber sleep training book?