2 week old cries a lot, scared he will be an unhappy child

[August21yellowbaby]

My first never ever cried as a baby, I actually remember asking my health visitor if he was normal as he never cries

My second was born 2 weeks ago and he cries very very loudly and a lot
It's really shocked me :(
He's clearly in pain which I think is trapped wind, but he's in colic drops and infacol and he's only breastfed so not sure what else I can do

Im really scared that he's never going to be a happy baby, I can tell my partner is feeling like he's regretting having another baby, he never wants to hold the baby which im finding really upsetting

Would love to hear happy baby stories after the crying newborn stage

It probably is wind and maybe reflux. If he's sore he's going to cry, it's all he can do. Wind him really thoroughly after each feed or during a feed if he starts squirming. It's not true that breastfed babies don't need winding. Aim for a really decent belch before stopping! Once he's more comfortable he'll be much happier 😊

Hi Op

my baby is also breastfed and cried a lot with tummy pains I could literally feel it churning when I was holding him. It will get better, he’s 14 weeks now and only cries for food or a cuddle and he smiles a lot! It’s so awful to see your baby upset it also takes a toll on your own happiness.

with regards to your partner it may be that you’re feeling a bit paranoid about him
not wanting another baby. I’m sure that’s not the case but sometimes when my baby cries and it disturbs my DH who works from home I start have intensive thoughts about him not wanting him which I know is absolutely not the case!

DS was very colicy as a baby. Screamed unless held and often while held for hours and hours. He is currently singing to himself while cooking himself supper. He has been a pretty chill and cheerful child right through from toddler years.

Colic is a nightmare: DS1 had it until 4 months. He's now a very happy 31yo!
Health visitor advised me to stop drinking sparkling water & fellow NCTers said not to eat strawberries.

Hey, please don’t worry too much about this. My daughter cried all the time until she was about 4/5 months old and I too was scared that she was never going to be happy! Well, she’s 11 months old now and she’s a funny, active happy, curious child! Things got really better at around 8/9 months old. Hang in there! It seems like a nightmare now but it will pass. Just follow your baby’s needs and give him lots of cuddles and hugs. Your partner is probably traumatised too but you should ask him for help and support. Your baby needs both parents!

My middle child was a very unsettled baby, was hard work as a toddler. He’s 8 now and he is the happiest, loveliest boy 99.9% of the time - still can have an awful temper on rare occasions.

My last dc was the most miserable little buggar for about a year.. Sleep trained him and he transformed into an absolute joy... Still is at 9yo..
Your dc is still brand new op. Crying is their favourite pass times...

My oldest was described as the ‘unhappiest baby’ a paediatric nurse had ever seen and ‘does she always scream like this?’. She had severe and prolonged reflux.

She’s now 5 and absolute sunshine (most of the time) - a very easygoing, sociable kid.

Have you tried breastfeeding holding DS vertically instead of horizontally? It can help reduce colic. Midwife or health visitor showed me how - sit DS on your thigh with one of his legs either side of yours. You may need a cushion to adjust his height!