Going from 2 to 3 children...

[arwilsx]

I'd love to hear anyone's thoughts that have either done it, or thought about it and decided against it.

We've got 2 kids, 5 and 2, love them to bits, some days they're easy peasy others they can be much harder.. I'd say they're just your average typical kids!

The last few of months I've not been able to shift the feeling of wanting another. It's not as strong as when we only had our first and were debating a second, but it's there niggling away 🤦🏻‍♀️

We've just got into a good routine, my husband's gone back to work (was a stay at home dad), 2 year old has started nursery, the kids both sleep pretty well.. everything feels like it's fallen into place. Yet I can't seem to stop thinking that maybe the house needs another tiny person running around it 😂

Spoken with my husband and to my surprise he's not actually against having another and is happy to... 'see what happens' but, a bit like me, is aware that it will have impacts to our life (e.g. we'd have to work out how to juggle a newborn between me going back to work and then getting funded hours at 9 months old - as I'd only be able to take a few months off on SMP among other things...).

Our house and car are both big enough so there's no worry there at least 😂

I feel like I'm gonna torture myself over this, so any input from anyone that's 'been there, done that' would be much appreciated, whether it's positive or negative! Thanks 🙏🏻

There are regularly threads asking this - there's been one this week if you want to search.

We've got 3 - now adults - and I can't imagine life any other way.

On these threads the usual things people point out are car seats (you say your car is big enough); sharing bedrooms - again you say your house is big enough; and, bizarrely holiday, but I can't say we ever had difficulty finding holiday accommodation in all the years we had 3 and went away every year.

Go for it. It sounds like you both want to.

I have a 5 year old and 2 year old too, and pretty much everything you’ve said applies to my family too. 2 year old has started nursery, 5 year old loving school and they are both incredible sleepers!

DH and I are both one of 3, way back when we said we wanted 3. I kept seeing signs about the number 3, but we have been exceptionally lucky with our girls and didn’t know if we were rocking the boat. DH wasn’t bothered about “trying for a boy”.

We had a few months of “not preventing” but not trying, and didn’t fall pregnant, then my younger sister announced she was pregnant and I just thought, it’s my time to be an auntie, and I’d still get the newborn cuddles. DH planned to get the snip, the week after a work trip… and you guessed it, during his work trip I found out I was pregnant!

We are really happy, it’s a funny story and meant to be. DD5 is SO excited about the baby, she was abit too young when DD2 was born so it’s added so much to the experience. I may eat my words in a few months 😂

I had three under the age of 4! Oh my, it’s nuts, still is really and they’re now 22, 20 and 18. But I wouldn’t have it any other way. Just be prepared for the juggle, there’s three of them and two of you!