I know that my girl is some kind different to other same age kids, someone told me she is one of SEN kids, just only not obvious, or just say very minor. You can’t discover that in school, she is very normal, unless someone deal with her in long time
She is 10, love reading, can be very focus on studying or reading for long time. No specific interesting topic, like some SEN kids love vehicle, animal, she never has one topic she really interested in and spend time on it.
She has a lot of friends in the past, she spent a lot of time in playground and played hide and seek with her friends every day. after move house or maybe she grow up, the girl around her is just spending all the time in chatting and gossip. She can’t join any of the girl group, she found that she can’t think anything to talk with others. If you her to join play hide and seek, that’s absolutely fine, but that’s not other girl’s like this game anymore
At this time, I still think she just don’t know how to make friends, not really a problem
Recently, I have a few experience with her, make me feel that she Is different.
We used to played board game in our weekend. My hubby, me, my son (8) and my daughter (10). We tried many games, it always end with angry. For example, we played monopoly, indeed she was the winner, but that’s doesn’t matter she is the winner or not, between the game, suddenly she cried or just loose her temper, because me or my hubby get penalty by step to someone property. She know this is a game, she just felt mum / dad is very poor to get fine.
Another example here, we played another game, like snake and ladder with two other cousins, girls are all very excited, shouting 6, 6, 6 when they throw dice. Finally the girl got 6. She was so happy and shouted. My daughter just ran away and said they are too loud. She don’t understand why girls shouted. I explained to her they are having fun, they are excited for the game. She really can’t understand. I feel so angry. She is 10. I can’t see the point she don’t understand. I told her even you don’t understand other people feeling, you still need to sit down and stay in the game until it is finish. You can’t just ran away, she cried and didn’t want to talk. I keep talked to her for an hour, she finally told me, she me hot, heart break speedup, she need to leave. This means she is not only emotional, but also make her feel physically, she need to leave
Besides that, she is absolutely normal, just a normal girl, sometimes quiet, she love swimming, tennis as well. The things is she can’t understand what is other feeling, but sometimes, she understand too much, like the monopoly game, she can’t play, because she think someone is too poor when someone get fine. She can’t stop crying. What kind of SEN it should be?
I don’t know what to say. My hubby that just don’t let her play game, that’s it. No big deal. That should that be a 10 year old girl like. I think that’s not only game, it make her hard to make friends, she always don’t understand what the other laughing for, what is the fun.
Sorry for my long story. Hope I can make it clear. I feel very collapse and angry when I deal with her.