I have a 5 month old baby girl who I coparent with. The original arrangement was her dad was staying here every other weekend and visiting due the week for a few hours.
On the weekends he’d see her he’d take her for a few hours a time to visit family / friends
The relationship between us has officially taken its toll on me and I asked if he could look into making suitable arrangements to start having our daughter.
I offered him to trial overnight the weekend just gone and he declined and said he didn’t have the right set up for her. I was already anxious about 1 being away from my baby whilst she’s still little and 2 he lives in shared accommodation but told me it was only him there and an older couple and it was a safe environment for her. I’m desperate for a little down time as well as him being able to have his own time with our daughter however today I dropped off some stuff he had left at mine for my daughter, he wasn’t in and 2 young blokes answered the door topless. The house stunk of stale cigarettes and weed and it’s just made me see red
our daughter has suffered with respiratory problems since the age of 3 weeks old, she ended up with being taken in on blue lights and in a baby’s ward tubed up to oxygen, peg feeding and was severely ill which took ages for her to recover, I’m so upset and angry that the person who makes out he would never put our daughter in any unsafe situations has not only lied but put her at risk.
i really don’t know how to do contact moving forward and what’s reasonable but I physically can’t send my daughter to a shared accommodation with random men that smoke / weed within the property, I’m emotionally drained