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Birthday cake etiquette

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GreyhoundGurl · 28/04/2024 08:09

Hi! We've been to several parties in the last year but I can't really think what's best to do about the cake. So soft play party in a local pub on a Sunday morning (his actual birthday), followed by family joining us for a carvery at the same place after. So obviously cake and candles for his friends to sing to him. Then...divide cake up for eating there and then? Or taking a piece home? Or do something different for them to take home (e.g. a biscuit with the same theme). Then...reuse the cake for family? Or just have a different family cake?!

I realise I'm totally overthinking a very small issue, and I'm very grateful we are able to give him a party. He will be 5; this will be his first party; we aren't doing party bags (I hate plastic rubbish!), but have disney books to give. I am determined to make him a homemade cake every year but this could be the family cake, and then I could buy a different one for friends. Sooo... any tips (other than just stop being a worry wart!!). Thanks!!

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CowboyJoanna · 28/04/2024 11:10

This is what we have always done for our girl's birthdays:

We do big, elaborate cake for the party. Sparklers lit and everyone sings. Once sparklers fizzle out, birthday girl cuts the cake and makes wish, kids all get a slice.

Unless the party is on the same day as the actual birthday, we then do a small cake and separate set of sparklers just for home on the actual day.

DappledThings · 28/04/2024 14:35

DustyLee123 · 28/04/2024 08:11

I thought it wasn’t the done thing anymore, to feed cake to kids where one has blown all over the cake, so you provide cup cakes in the same colour?

Rubbish. That's a weird thing I've only ever heard of on Mumsnet. Every single party I've been to has had candles blown out as normal and the cake served.

OP I'd make one big cake, candles at party then cut and put slices in party bags to take home then the rest of the same cake for later. You can relight the candles and blow them out again.

Only ever bothered with a second cake when there was a gap of a few days between party and actual birthday. Daft to have 2 cakes for the same day.

Caffeineislife · 28/04/2024 14:49

Supermarket cake wrapped in napkin is fine for the party. I'd save nice homemade cake for the family.

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Soubriquet · 28/04/2024 14:51

We had a party a couple of weeks ago and gave the kids a choice. They could eat there for desert or they could take it home. Most kids ate it at the party and one child decided they wanted to take it home so it got wrapped in a napkin to take home.

And yes dd blew the candles out

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