Does anyone with small kids on here have partners who either work away a lot or work a lot of anti social hours? Any survival tips? My kids do fine, both are under 5 and are pretty well drilled with bedtimes, school runs etc. I just find whenever my partner finishes a run of work I am absolutely wasted 😅 I work part time, have friends but have no energy to see them when i am in the trenches 😬 for example at the moment my partner is on a run of 11 days working till 9am-midnight. I dont like complaining because I know he is tired too but 11 solo bedtimes, poorly toddlers and then the cat being ill which all fall to me during these periods has driven me a bit loopy. He also has trips abroad c. once a month which last roughly a week.
We have tried extra childcare which I hated because I dont like being apart from the kids ideally, especially when they have to deal with one of their parents schedule being all over the place.
We have tried him working less but that doesn’t really solve the problem, he is in an industry that books him for runs of things ie a big batch of days then he will have a week or so off which is nice but then the cycle starts again.
I am getting to a point where its affecting my health a bit, im anaemic and a recent blood test showed im low in iron, B12, folate and a host of other stuff. Basically im not looking after myself. I have 0 energy to eat well when im looking after the kids by myself.
Total respect for single mothers here, i know they are the true champions.
Anything we could try to make my life easier? Or is it just battling through till the kids are older and it will become easier.