Long story short 🤞🏽
Up until now I was having my 5 month olds dad stay every other weekend Fri-Sunday, this arrangement has been in place since she was newborn as he wanted to be as involved as he could and be able to bond & I wanted to give him that, my daughter a good staring base to bond as well as keeping her close! We’re both very hot headed and argue over silly things, never in person we get on really well face to face but over text (he always wanted to text all day every day 90% about general stuff not involving our daughter) but I didn’t mind as we was close despite the relationship break down.
He has no understanding that being a single mum to 3 children 90% of the time, I sometimes have rough days with them and I’m not on top form with my moods! But after a stupid argument he’s decided he no longer wants to visit her at mine during the week after work (he lives an hour away so collecting her when he finishes work at half 5 and taking her out for 2 hours isn’t an option according to him, which again is fine)
He requested over night stays at his every other weekend Friday-Saturday which I refused, he lives in shared accommodation with multiple other random men, one he was complaining about smoking weed in his room and it blowing into his bedroom when he had his two sons stay at weekends. Another weekend he had his sons he woke up to somebody (another tenant) looking at him through a crack of the door and it’s just made me extremely anxious about sending her over night. Am I being out of order? 😭 He’s a wicked dad and I have no problem him collecting her and taking her for the day I just really don’t feel comfortable her staying in shared accommodation with random people.
Hes not happy about my concerns and has apparently contacted mediation as he wants it in writing. If it went to court do you think they would accept? And if so, would they atleast check the property was suitable for her to stay?
thanks so much for advice