I don’t know how to write this without sounding ungrateful. I love all my children.
My daughters (6) behaviours is really getting me down, she is constantly being rude to me, her facial expressions are something else, moaning, complaining, making noises, hissing at me and all I want I want. It’s become embarrassing how she acts when we are out and she is starting to spoil days out.
She has always been a bit more fiery as a younger child/toddler but as she getting older is becoming unacceptable and other older children have commented on the nosies/moaning she makes.
I do say no as I am the parent. I try not to say a direct no, try to do more along the lines of when she can have the things she’s wanting to do.
Even at my in-laws (nicest people going) they were shocked and they tried to get her to stop and say we don’t act/talk like that.
She’s not autistic, doing well at school, school not mentioning any problems etc.
I have two other sons 4 and 7 and they are just general more compliant. I’m not saying they are angels, obviously have to ask to get shoes/coat, listen, share etc. But they just don’t react with screams and moaning in my face!!
Im at my limit and I just lost it with her! Picked her up from an after school art club. I honestly talk to her so nicely, did you have a nice time, ask what she did - we had a lovely chat walking back to the car, looking at her painting. She then flips out screaming, body slamming in her car seat because I didn’t get her crisps. Calmly explained we are off to eat at your aunt’s house food will be ready. She’s continuing to moan, whining I want crisps… and I lost it. I’m ashamed to say I swore, I slammed the car door and shouted.
I don’t know what to do! We have already talked to her about the way she is behaving, asked her how she is feeling is anything bothering her. We talked about consequences and how she will not be attending her dance class or rainbows if she doesn’t start behaving better.
I do always try to praise the good behaviour, saying she’s a lovely girl and we know that she is a good girl. I don’t want to be negative but it’s getting really hard to be around her.
I just got my husband to take the kids all to his aunts house as i didn't want to be around her!! I apologised and said mummy shouldn’t have got mad and that I need a time out.
I feel for my boys as well as I’m having to give her so much more attention as it’s hard to ignore her. Trying to read to my youngest and she’s constantly complaining about something or other!