Quick one! Send DS to nursery with or without nappy ?

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Started potty training today. I’m a SAHM so can stay indoors for a few days and DS goes to nursery Friday and Monday morning for 3 hours.
Todays been rubbish, no nappies on and accidents everywhere, a straight NO from him when asked to sit on potty. Hoping for a better day tomorrow but should I inform nursery I am potty training? Or do I sent DS into nursery without a nappy and let them know at the door?

Forgot to add DS is 2.5 years old

I would send him in in a pull up. That’s what I did when DD2 was having lots of accidents at the beginning of training.

the nursery are well equiped for potty training, as long as you make it clear to them what you want to happen...

and send lots of spare clothes just in case.. good luck

I don't think it's fair to send him in without a nappy if he's not making progress at all. I personally would probably keep him off this Friday so you get a long stretch of it and, if he's not got it then, leave it for a bit but I don't know how convenient that would be.

I took leave from work to potty train mine, I don't think it's something to hand over to ask nursery to sort out.

Are you incentivising the potty?

We started with a lindt ball and had to quickly reduce that to a quarter of a ball and then a small chocolate button because he wouldn't get off the potty and kept squeezing out miniscule wees.

To be honest i was actually really quite proud with how quickly he started gaming the system.

Keep him off Friday and send him back Monday. If he still hasn’t got it by Monday he’s probably not ready.

I sent in 4 changes of knickers and a couple of pull ups and said that if they went through all the changes of knickers they could pop her in a pull up or if she was getting upset with the accidents.
In the first week we had a couple of days where she used them all but they never had to put her in a pull up. After that she was down to the odd accident.

It comes down to the temperament of the child. My daughter does get upset some times with accidents if they caught her by surprise. She has been potty trained for almost a year but is prone to bouts of diarrhoea and if has an episode and gets upset by it we pop her in a pull up for the afternoon still. She can go all day and not use it for wees but there as a safety net for poos without notice.

We did slow potty training starting with an hour building up to 4h before or after a nap and before and after a nap before committing to potty training. She was never confused and would sometimes asks for the potty despite being in a pull up. I deliberately did it this way as she's a child that needs to understand things before doing them. It took her 4 months to go from cruising furniture to walking we had to wait until she was ready and she ran the next day. As soon as she wanted knickers before and after a nap we went with full potty training and her nursery commented on how quick she got it and they half her room was potty training at the same time

I would always recommend being a bit reflective on how your child is when learning other new skills and given them the same space for potty training too. You know the temperament of your child and how they might feel with accidents or if they are easily distracted and how best to motivate them and to get them on side. Trust your gut!

Ours are fine with taking them at any stage of potty training, so if you're determined I'd give them a shout tomorrow to check they're ok with you sending him in pants and send a million changes.

But personally if he doesn't get it tomorrow, at 2.5 I'd be leaving it a while. That's what we did with DC2, and a few months later she had zero accidents on day one.

This is always what I would do.

I wouldn't put a pull up or nappy on that could confuse the situation
Definitely tell nursery that you are potty training and send multiple changes of clothes, it may take a while but you will get there.
We trained our boy just before he turned 2 started over a long bank hol and he was in nursery commando on the Tues

This is hilarious, he will go far 🤣

Op send him in a pull up and let the nursery know don't send him in pants it will be disastrous.

I did 3 days of potty training at home before his first session back at pre school. By day 3 he had more or less got it but I emailed them anyway and asked what they'd like me to do. They said send him in with no nappy and they'd carry on with it.

I think they appreciated me checking though.

(I didn't stay at home the whole 3 days we potty trained, we did the first day but went out and about on days 2 and 3!)

I would certainly have a conversation with them before landing that on them but to be honest I would expect there to be a little bit of success before going back to nursery. I usually recommend minimum of a long weekend but better if parents can take a week out to concentrate on it. There should be a bit of success before going back but 100% willing to support potty training once underway. Make sure to take little one out and about too with pants on so you can give nursery as much info about his potty training as you can, triggers/signs he needs toilet etc. good luck.