Miss my little children.

[Zentherapist]

Every night I watch videos of my DD 12 and DS8 when they were younger (between 1-6ish)
it’s like I’m grieving for the younger versions, I enjoy the ages they are at now, but I’m so sad when I think of how they used to be! Is this normal? It makes me so emotion, I enjoyed them so much. Maybe I’m broody? 🤣

I’ve gone through random times like this, but never for a long time. Sounds awful to ask but are you hormonal? Or tired?

Oh l do it often.. l enjoyed being a SAHM ( mostly a single parent) loved every year of their little lives.. toddler stage/ nursery stage.
But then l enjoyed their teen years ( both daughters) watched them grow into adults.. yes we had some times where things weren't good.. but now l get to love the children of my children..just when you think you can't love your children anymore..along come Grandkids and my gosh the love is overwhelming.

Oh OP, I feel for you, I feel the same way (although with 3 DC, now teens). Preschool and early primary age were utterly magical and I think will always look back on them as the true golden years of my life. They are fab teens and there is still lots to enjoy but for me personally nothing will replace the profound fulfilment and joy of life with them when they were young.

Stop watching the videos!! - every day is OTT!!

These posts make me feel sad. I have a 3 yo and 1 yo and feel fully “in the trenches” of shitness. I love them, but also hate my life because of how difficult they are.

I feel like that too .I miss the cuteness and little-ness.

It's a special time but it doesn't last long .

Don’t get me wrong, I really struggled also, some days I didn’t enjoy it, but the cuteness, and feeling needed, I felt loved by them. Now my life is so much easier, full time school, dress and eat themselves, just makes me feel like there is something missing somehow.

I miss it too. I have twins, it was a fucking slog most of the time but the little hands, hugs, days out, actually seeing them, it makes me sad, I think if I had had had one at a time I would have spent more quality time with.

I think watching the videos is probably reinforcing the feeling to an unhelpful degree. As others have said the sadness is totally normal and to be accepted, but I wonder if it would be a good idea to experiment with stopping watching the videos/looking at pictures for a couple of weeks to see if the feelings abate a little

Not at v all