How to stop cosleeping?

[Nosleepforthismum]

My just turned one year old was poorly a few weeks ago and so I slept in the spare room with her next to me in bed and she slept soundly. After she recovered, if she woke in the night I took her in the spare room with me as she settled better in the bed next to me. Unfortunately, she seems to have cottoned on to this trick and now refuses to go into her cot at all, and will wake within an hour of putting her down if asleep until I fetch her to sleep with me in the spare room.

It’s probably all linked but she also started nursery last week and has been extremely clingy with me recently. Even sat up twice in bed tonight to look around to make sure I was there.

I really, really don’t want to be a long term co-sleeper (as much as I love her). I have anxiety about crushing her, suffocating her, her getting wedged, ignoring her waking and crawling off the bed and so I barely get any sleep when she’s next to me. I like my own space and frankly feel completely touched out most evenings and just want her to go to sleep somewhere safe. Any tips on how to break this habit now? Shall I stay with it until she’s a bit more settled at nursery? Buy a double floor bed for her room and keep escaping once she’s asleep?

Sounds expensive, will this bed have 1000 pocket springs or just one. Just make sure adults aren't smoking in the same room as these little kids, they'll soon become addicted to your room.

We had this same issue with our twins after illness. What we did is put a single mattress (we had this already) on the floor next to their cots. So when they wake and want to co sleep I will sleep on the mattress and hold her hand through the cot bars. I started doing this without the mattress but after a spending a night sleeping most of the night on the floor put the mattress there. This also meant that my husband and I could split the night if needed. It took around a week to get them out of co sleeping. Although we still have occasional nights when unwell when I still have to do this (generally only for around an hour till they resettle).

I did that when my 1 year old was poorly, she's 2.5 now and still in my bed 😭 More chance of her kicking me to death than me suffocating her though.

Looking forward to the answer to a good night's sleep here!