New to motherhood rant

[Hungus93]

Gosh, I seem to be posting a lot on this forum lately 😅

Just here to have a bit of a rant and maybe some advice or words of encouragement (again) - I have a lovely baby girl who is turning one month old tomorrow. She generally is what I would say a very good baby - generally doesn't cry too much, unless she needs feeding, usually will happily sleep in her next to me cot, or be put down for in her poddle pod for a day nap, and at the moment we're more in the eat, sleep, poop, repeat cycle with an odd and not very long awake window. Which makes me feel even more guilty and mad with myself as I feel absolutely exhausted due to lack of sleep! I have always been a person who needed 8+ hours of sleep to feel well rested and well obviously this is not happening at the moment. I sometimes feel so tired that I almost wish the days away and keep thinking "what on earth have we done". Deep inside I know I love my daughter dearly and wouldn't change things but I must admit I keep having those thoughts. Please tell me I'm not the worst mum ever. Also any tips on how to train your body to function well on less sleep will be much appreciated 😆

Even an easy baby is Hard Work. This is temporary; it gets easier. Just stay in survival mode right now. Is everybody fed? That's literally the only goal for having a newborn. You're doing fine.

Those first few months are tough.
Make sure you are eating and drinking properly.
Don't worry too much about housework etc
Make sure your partner is pulling his weight with cooking etc
Try and nap during the day when baby is napping.
I think you do adjust to the broken nights.

Both mine have been awful sleepers (I’m talking 2hrly for nearly 2 years each) and you do just get used to functioning on little sleep. I’m not saying you thrive it’s survival mode a lot of the time.
Early nights, water, exercise, good nutrition, taking time out wherever you can for yourself all help :)

I felt like this when i had my DS he's 11 next month, but weirdly when I had my DD she's 18months, the tiredness didn't bother me in the slightest. Our bodies are weird and wonderful 😂 you're doing great, you're adjusting to motherhood that in itself is an exhausting thing never mind the lack of sleep on top of it ❤️

You have to be very disciplined with yourself and never miss an opportunity to sleep. No social media or doom scrolling. Even half hour nap helps so much. Forget the chores. Baby and sleep are your priorities. Easier said than done my dc is 5 I'm still not sleeping enough

'This too shall pass' became my absolute gritted teeth mantra when going through any shite bit of parenting. It's true though and when you're right in the deep of a difficult bit (and those first few months are HARD!) it's not great but then one day you suddenly realise that at some point it got easier, you just don't remember when it did it

It's normal to feel this way and you do get used to the sleep. It will get better around six months but I haven't had 8hours in a row since before my almoat 5 year old was born. Though we have no support network which you might have to help x