Sometimes it’s just bloody relentless

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I have one child who is nearly 2, and she is wonderful and we love her dearly. But can anyone tell me when things actually get easier? It’s one challenge after another, and as things get easier one way, another challenge arises.

now she’s at the toddler stage so as expected she is having temper tantrums. Sometimes I just can’t do anything right and she kicks off if she can’t get her way.

she is normally a good sleeper (after the first year of hell with no sleep) so when she wakes up it’s more of a shock but we are noticing she is absolutely hysterical each time and it can take an hour to calm her, and in my sleepy state it’s really fucking hard and I feel like crying with her. Last night she was hysterical and I’m starting work in a min and I’m shattered before the day has begun.

i work full time and because we are skint reducing hours is a no go.

im flat out exhausted. We both are. Does it get easier? The constant washing, being on high alert in case my child decides to do something stupid, the tantrums, sleepless nights and trying to do my best at a full time job. Forget keeping the place we live nice, it looks like a pit and I’m sick of it.

I want to process and get a more senior role, but am I just bloody kidding myself? How do people do it.

just a rant as on verge of tears

The laundry gets better very gradually. I'm afraid that you've still got a fair amount of time with accidents/careless eating/getting carried away in muddy puddles ahead of you. Just make it as easy on yourself as possible - a a a heated airer so things will dry even if i dont hang them till evening and thingd get sorts into very few categories. I keep a box in the room what things dry so if kids stuff doesn't get put away it can be with straight from that (actually i have 6 boxes as a have 4 kids!)

Sleep sounds like an issue. Do you know know cause? Is she potty training? Or might it be night terrors? It sounds like this Is the real problem for you now.

Nobody can tell you when it all get easier as there's a lot of variation. But it WILL.
Wgatbus your childcare situation and how are finances? You may be able to outsource and free up some time to help you pursue that career progression. I've got to admit I've kind of paused mine for now as it doesn't feel important to me at the moment, but if you care about it you should try to make it happen.

Relentless is absolutely the word. There is no escape really. 1-2 is HARD especially if you're back at work.
Honestly it gets better! Notice the 'little wins' - e.g. when potty trained, or they can wash their own hands, put their own shoes on (not for ages yet obviously), can walk at a half-decent pace....