Thinking about trying for second child - but dreading the baby stage.

[iwouldgoouttonight]

I would love to have two children - me and DP both have siblings and we'd love DS to have a little brother or sister. However, I'd like it delivered to me already 12 months old!

I didn't enjoy the first six months to a year of DS's life, I can't cope with sleep deprivation, struggled with breastfeeding, spent most days crying and wondering what on earth I'd done! However now he's 18 months old I love him to bits and would love another just like him!

I went back and forth to the doctor and HV and they were adamant I didn't have PND so I'm assuming that feeling crap is just normal when you have a small baby.

DP and I had decided to start trying at the beginning of the year but each month I have an excuse to put it off! We should probably just go for it but I know I'll spend my pregnancy dreading those first few months of constant crying (me and baby!) and no let up and no sleep. DS only slept for 20 mins at a time and fed every hour and I'm dreading another child being the same. I need to remind myself its only a few months and then the sleepless nights will be over, but I just remember at the time one night would seem like a lifetime.

Does anyone have any experiences like this - are second children easier, or will it be even more difficult because I have a toddler to look after at the same time?

[iwouldgoouttonight]

at first tooth at 14 weeks! DS is 19 months and still only has six!!

[Niecie]

Good luck, Iwouldgoout - I'll keep an eye out for the birth announcement.

It might be hard (and it might not) but in the long run, if you want a brother or sister for your DS you won't regret it! I hope it goes really smoothly for you.